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ACCOUNTABILITY
“To “magnify” as used in the scriptures means to make greater, to make more splendid. How do missionaries serve to “magnify”? They magnify their office, magnify the Lord, magnify themselves, and magnify the gospel. What a grand blessing it is to have part in such a program of expansion as the kingdom of God unfolds and grows like the stone that was cut from the mountain without hands and rolls forth to fill the whole world (see Daniel 2:34–35; D&C 65:2). How can we improve in the way we bring about the holy process of magnification with greater effectiveness as we bless the lives of others through the gospel of Jesus Christ?” -Richard Allen is quoted at the beginning of each section
We are accountable for the knowledge and blessings we receive from our Heavenly Father. In other words, we will have to account to Him for what we have done with what we have been given. We will be held accountable for our thoughts, words, and deeds, as well as for the worthy things we neglect to do that we should do (sins of omission). The gift of moral agency requires that all people be accountable for their choices; this accountability begins at age eight. A central part of the plan of salvation is that receive rewards or punishments according to our works. Therefore, specific blessings or consequences are predicated on what we do, think, and say.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Articles of Faith 1:2. We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam’s transgression.
Alma 12:14. For our words will condemn us, yea, all our works will condemn us; we shall not be found spotless; and our thoughts will also condemn us; and in this awful state we shall not dare to look up to our God; and we would fain be glad if we could command the rocks and the mountains to fall upon us to hide us from his presence.
Mosiah 4:30. But this much I can tell you, that if ye do not watch yourselves, and your thoughts, and your words, and your deeds, and observe the commandments of God, and continue in the faith of what ye have heard concerning the coming of our Lord, even unto the end of your lives, ye must perish. And now, O man, remember, and perish not.
It is abundantly clear from these scriptures that we are accountable for our own sins. We cannot transfer our wrongdoings to anyone else. We have the power to choose, and we have been given grand resources to help us—the light of Christ, the Holy Ghost, the word of God, the counsel of living prophets, and the assistance of many loving associates. However, it is up to us to act in valiant and responsible ways.
Doctrine and Covenants 101:78. That every man may act in doctrine and principle pertaining to futurity, according to the moral agency which I have given unto him, that every man may be accountable for his own sins in the day of judgment.
There will one day be a time of ultimate reckoning for each of us concerning our performance in this mortal life. At the Day of Judgment we will be restored—good for good and evil according to that which is evil (see Alma 41:3–4).
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Joseph Smith:
Men not unfrequently forget that they are dependent upon heaven for every blessing which they are permitted to enjoy, and that for every opportunity granted them they are to give an account. (History of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 7 vols. 2:23–24)
Joseph F. Smith:
If there is one principle of the gospel of Jesus Christ that goes directly to the very foundation of justice and righteousness, it is that great and glorious and God-like principle that every man will have to render an account for that which he does, and every man will be rewarded for his works, whether they be good or evil. (Gospel Doctrine: Selections from the Sermons and Writings of Joseph F. Smith, comp. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1939], 69)
Neal A. Maxwell:
Nor should we rationalize our responsibilities simply because we are often in short-term relationships with other people. The hungry or thirsty stranger, Jesus said, represents more than himself or herself (see Matthew 25:31–46). We are accountable for doing our part in all relationships and for providing what leadership, service, and influence we can. Those within our circles of influence constitute our present sample of humanity; they are neither mere functionaries nor strangers in a transit lounge. (A Wonderful Flood of Light [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1990], 112)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are some ideas to help us remember that we are accountable for our thoughts and actions.
1. Learn to manage your personal life according to the principle of being accountable.
● Mental preparation—Pray. Prepare your mind. Realize that every action or decision results from our thoughts and intents. Prayer keeps our minds and hearts turned to God and His will.
● Pondering—Each time you make a decision, ponder the consequences. Will the decision bring you and your loved ones closer to your Father in Heaven? Decide not on the basis of pleasure or gratification, but according to a higher order of living. Don’t deceive yourself with lust; pleasure is short-lived.
● Values—Choose your governing values in life so that when the time comes to make a decision, you are already disposed to choose the right and act responsibly.
● Keep a journal—Take a daily personal accounting of your motivations and actions.
● Study the word of God—Read the scriptures and the words of the prophets daily to learn what the Lord expects of us and to enjoy the inspiration and motivation that come from God’s word.
● Remember who you are—Think of yourself as bearing the name of the Savior. Christ will one day require an account of how we have borne His name.
● Listen to the Spirit within—By listening to the Holy Ghost, you will know what is right.
2. Establish an environment for proper decision making.
● Choose that which edifies—Fill your life with wholesome pastimes and worthy causes. We are free to do much good. Our environmental choices influence in large measure our decisions in life.
● Surround yourself with positive reminders—Adorn your environment with appropriate symbols of the gospel (such as pictures of the temple, the prophet, the Savior, your family) as reminders to be more holy and valiant.
● Fill leisure hours with uplifting influences—Fill your mind with good music, stimulating literature, wholesome conversation, and uplifting thoughts. Purge your hours of superficial television programming, riotous music, and other forms of idle or degrading entertainment.
3. Use Church experiences to sharpen your sense of being accountable.
● Sacrament—Use the sacrament time each week to refresh your commitment to obedience.
● Testimony bearing—Bear your testimony regularly. This is a form of accounting to the Lord and to others for the guidance of His Spirit and the blessings He grants to you through the gospel.
● Interviews—Make your temple recommend interview and other important interviews a rehearsal for your ultimate account to the Savior for your life’s actions and all your inner dispositions.
● Temple attendance—Go to the temple often to experience the process of accounting to our Father in Heaven for all we do.
4. Work with others effectively.
● Responsible leadership—In whatever roles we fill (spouse, parent, home/visiting teacher, ward/stake callings), we have a stewardship. Fulfill these callings to the best of your ability, and account to your leaders.
● Lessons—Make yourself accountable for what you’ve been taught by setting goals and applying gospel lessons to your life. Do this in your families to teach accountability.
● Praise—Praise others for their good work. Sincere and appropriate praise reinforces good behavior.
● Help others to understand accountability—A natural consequence often teaches accountability. Except in situations of an immediate, life-threatening nature, be cautious about interceding in the affairs of others (especially children) to take away the consequence of their actions. Often, great lessons can be learned from natural consequences.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
Elder Robert Wood of the Seventy relates this story and teaching concerning accountability:
There is a fairy tale about a king who offered the hand of his daughter in marriage to the young man who would do or create the most extraordinary, unbelievable thing. Young men from all over the kingdom brought to the royal city marvelous works of mind and hand and tremendous demonstrations of physical agility. Finally, one young man created a tremendous clock that not only told the minutes, hours, days, months, and years, but also had carved within it the figures of the great poets, philosophers, and prophets of history, who on the appointed hours expounded the wisdom of the ages. The people exclaimed, “What an unbelievable thing!” But then another young man appeared on the scene who, sledgehammer in hand, began to destroy the masterpiece. Again the people exclaimed—this time in horror—”Why, this is the most unbelievable thing we’ve seen!” And so it appeared that the king was to be compelled to hand his daughter over to the ruffian. But, this being a fairy tale, suddenly all the stone figures reassembled, became flesh, and drove the young man from the town.
When I first read this tale to one of my daughters, she asked, “What was everyone doing while the young man was wrecking the clock?” A very sensible question! For too many, responsibility seems to end with hand-wringing and exclamations of dismay. Yet talk without action accomplishes little. We need to be vigorously engaged in the world. If our schools are inadequate or destructive of moral values, we must work with fellow members of the community to bring about change. If our neighborhoods are unsafe or unhealthy, we must join with the civic-minded to devise solutions. If our cities and towns are polluted, not only with noxious gases but soul-destroying addictions and smut, we must labor to find legitimate ways to eliminate such filth while respecting freedom of conscience.
But what can one man or woman or a handful of Latter-day Saints accomplish? Much. The dynamics of history are driven, on the one hand, by the few who are engaged, and on the other hand, by the many who are apathetic. If we are not among the few engaged, we are, despite our concerns and voices of alarm, among the apathetic. May it never be said of us, “Because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth” (Rev. 3:16).
We are among the most blessed people in all of history. There is no place for complaining, no excuse for inaction, no “escape from freedom.” Being so richly blessed, we have the responsibility to be a blessing to others, to our nation, to the world. When we stand at the great judgment bar of Jehovah, He may ask: Did we honor our personal responsibility? Did we bear the burdens of our neighbors? Did we heal? Did we comfort? Did we bring peace? Did we instill virtue? Did we spend ourselves in the service and uplift of mankind? May we at that day be able to answer in the affirmative and then hear the words pronounced, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant. Enter into my rest.” (“On the Responsible Self,” Ensign, March 2002, 27)
SUMMARY
Accountability is a basic tenet of the gospel of Jesus Christ, “for it is required of the Lord, at the hand of every steward, to render an account of his stewardship, both in time and in eternity” (D&C 72:3). Our every deed and action, our use of time, even our very thoughts belong to our personal history and will ultimately have to be accounted for. Yet it is a process of becoming, and it takes time to become a responsible and accountable person. Every blessing with which the Lord blesses our lives is part of His eternal investment in our well-being and must inevitably show up in the balance sheet of our life. Our agency is a God-given gift, without which salvation would not be possible. Because of that gift, we can look forward to a harvest of rich and empowering blessings based on valiant and righteous choices, or a recompense of punishment and woe based on unrepentant disobedience. It is up to us.
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ADVERSITY
“As the Lord’s emissaries of hope and truth, we can help our listeners understand that the Lord will give them strength to rise above tribulation and trials through the guidance and the Spirit and the blessings of the restored gospel. How can we encourage them to apply to themselves in faith the Lord’s promise: “Be patient in afflictions, for thou shalt have many; but endure them, for, lo, I am with thee, even unto the end of thy days” (D&C 24:8).”
Adversity is a reality of life. It can come from disease, accidents, physical or emotional injuries, natural disasters, wars, ignorance, willful disobedience, and even chastisement from the Lord or a special trial He gives us for our particular tutoring and growth. Often it comes as afflictions upon an innocent victim (see Hel. 3:34). It is always present, and we must come to terms with it in order to learn to navigate the mortal pathways leading to a higher quality of life. Frequently, adversity is not manifest in just the situation itself, but in our attitude toward the situation and the events and relationships around us. How we view the situation is the key to dealing with adversity. Perceiving things from a higher perspective invariably leads to greater understanding, and, frequently, to the discovery of ultimate solutions in overcoming adversity. Remember that opposition in all things is essential for our growth. Without opposition, we could not understand or appreciate joy in contrast to sorrow, or righteousness in contrast to wickedness. Without opposition, everything would be “a compound in one” (see 2 Ne. 2:11)—devoid of vitality and bereft of the opportunity for eternal progression.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
2 Nephi 2:11. For it must needs be, that there is an opposition in all things. If not so, . . . righteousness could not be brought to pass, neither wickedness, neither holiness nor misery, neither good nor bad.
Opposition is necessary in order for us to grow. When we realize that adversity, trials, tribulations, and opposition are for our growth, our attitude and behavior will change. Adversity will become an opportunity rather than a stumbling block. We need to look at life as the time to prove ourselves worthy, not to be free from adversity.
Doctrine and Covenants 122:7. And if thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers, and the sentence of death passed upon thee; if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.
In all the difficulties of life, let us never lose sight of our purpose: We are here to become like our Heavenly Father and our Savior Jesus Christ. We agreed to the test of mortality in the premortal life. We need this experience in order to grow. In our trials, we learn how to help others by applying the lessons we learn, even as Christ did in suffering the ultimate sacrifice (see Alma 7:11–12).
Doctrine and Covenants 136:31. My people must be tried in all things, that they may be prepared to receive the glory that I have for them, even the glory of Zion; and he that will not bear chastisement is not worthy of my kingdom.
Heavenly Father knows what is best for us (see Prov. 3:5–6). We become perfected through the processes of sacrificing, enduring to the end, and learning to submit to all things that Father should inflict upon us (see Mosiah 3:19). Let us cultivate an attitude full of hope and faith to overcome adversity and go forward knowing of the goodness of God.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
David O. McKay:
There are those who have met disaster, which almost seems defeat, who have become somewhat soured in their natures, but if they stop to think, even the adversity which has come to them may prove a means of spiritual uplift. Adversity itself may lead toward and not away from God and spiritual enlightenment; and privation may prove a source of strength if we can but keep a sweetness of mind and spirit. (Gospel Ideals: Selections from the Discourses of David O. McKay [Salt Lake City: Improvement Era, 1953], 390)
Ezra Taft Benson:
Our great purpose in life is to overcome adversity and worldly consideration as we strive for things of the Spirit. (The Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988], 449–50)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
If as a people we will build and sustain one another, the Lord will bless us with the strength to weather every storm and continue to move forward through every adversity. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 7)
James E. Faust:
Many in today’s generation have not fully known nor appreciated the refining blessings of adversity. Many have never been hungry because of want. Yet I am persuaded that there can be a necessary refining process in adversity that increases our understanding, enhances our sensitivity, makes us more Christlike. Lord Byron said, “Adversity is the first path to truth” (Don Juan, canto 12, stanza 50). The life of the Savior and the lives of His prophets clearly and simply teach how necessary adversity is to achieve a measure of greatness. (“The Blessings of Adversity,” Liahona, May 1998, 3)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
The question in dealing with trials is, How can we gain a better perspective on adversity and learn to appreciate its role in our lives so that we can grow from our experiences? The following ideas may help you view and respond to adversity in a positive manner:
1. Adversity is a universal experience.
● We all face adversity—Without adversity we may forget God (see Hel. 12:2–3). No one person has a monopoly on adversity—we are all in this together.
● Adversity can lead to good—Learning to overcome adversity is part of life. It will be for our good (see D&C 98:1–3)
● Face adversity with courage—To wish away adversity will only make one weak. The result will be little or no growth.
● Rise above adversity—Great souls are those who handle adversity positively, maintain a good attitude, and have a proper perspective on life.
● Trust in God—Adversity teaches us to trust in the Lord (see Prov. 3:5–6).
● The Lord chastens those He loves—We are chastened in adversity (see 2 Ne. 5:25; Mosiah 23:21) and then blessed as we grow from it (see Mosiah 24:8–15).
2. You already have access to effective tools for overcoming adversity.
● Faith in Jesus Christ—Heavenly Father has given each of us abilities that we can utilize. As we exercise our faith in Jesus Christ, we will receive the strength to overcome our adversity (see 1 Ne. 7:17).
● The word of God—There is power in the word (see Alma 31:5). It will tell us all things that we should do (see 2 Ne. 32:3).
● The Spirit—The Holy Ghost will guide us in all things (see 2 Ne. 32:5) and comfort us as well (see John 14:16).
● Prayer—The scriptures teach us clearly that if we but ask, the Lord will help us (see James 1:5–6; Mosiah 27:14; Alma 13:28).
● Hope—When you are full of hope, knowing that in the end all things shall work together for your good, you can endure and transcend adversity (see D&C 122:7).
● Patience—As we exercise patience, time will become our ally. It is a righteous response to adversity (see Alma 26:27). The process of overcoming was never meant to be easy or quick; it is a process of becoming (see D&C 24:8).
● People—Family, friends, associates, and/or even caring strangers are there to lend support (see D&C 108:7).
● Positive response—We have moral agency. We can choose to face adversity positively in the strength of the Lord or allow it to destroy us.
3. There are great benefits that come through adversity.
● Humility—Adversity cultivates humility—knowing our relationship to and dependence upon God—which is the beginning virtue of exaltation.
● Self-worth—Overcoming adversity brings great personal satisfaction and a sense of self-worth and self-confidence.
● Strength—Overcoming adversity brings us an enduring kind of spiritual strength.
● Gratitude—Adversity is the teacher that helps us remember the good times and the blessings of God.
● Spirituality—From adversity we can become closer to God, knowing that He not only gives us the strength to overcome, but provides blessings in the process.
● Blessings from the Lord—The Savior continually nurtures us and strengthens us in our adversity and afflictions (see Alma 7:11–12).
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
The following well-known quote provides many examples of those who overcame great adversity to become some of the most accomplished human beings in modern history.
Portraits in Overcoming Adversity
Cripple him, and you have a Sir Walter Scott. Lock him in a prison cell, and you have a John Bunyan. Bury him in the snows of Valley Forge, and you have a George Washington. Land him in poverty, and you have an Abraham Lincoln. Subject him to bitter religious strife, and you have a Disraeli. Strike him with infantile paralysis, and you have a Franklin D. Roosevelt, the only president of the United States to be elected to four terms of office. Burn him so severely in a schoolhouse fire that the doctors say he will never walk, and you have a Glenn Cunningham, who set a world record in 1934 for running the mile in 4 minutes, 6.7 seconds.
Deafen a genius composer who continues to compose some of the world’s most beautiful music, and you have a Beethoven. Drag him more dead than alive out of a rice paddy in Vietnam, and you have a Rocky Blaier, that beautiful running back for the Pittsburgh Steelers. Have him or her born black in a society filled with racial discrimination, and you have a Booker T. Washington, Harriet Tubman, or Martin Luther King Jr. Have him born of parents who survived a Nazi concentration camp, paralyze him from the waist down at the age of four, and you have an Itzhak Perlman, the incomparable violinist. Call him “retarded” and write him off as “uneducatable,” and you have an Albert Einstein.
After losing both his legs in an airplane crash, let an RAF fighter pilot fly, and you have World War II ace, Douglas Bader, who was captured by the Germans three times and escaped three times on two artificial limbs. Label him too stupid to learn, and you have a Thomas Edison. Label him a hopeless alcoholic, and you have a Bill Wilson, the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous. Tell her she is too old to start painting at 80, and you have a Grandma Moses. Blind him at age 44, and you have a John Milton, who 10 years later, wrote Paradise Lost. Call him dull and hopeless and flunk him in the 6th grade, and you have a Winston Churchill.
Tell a young boy who loved to draw and sketch that he had no talent, and you have a Walt Disney. Rate him mediocre in chemistry, and you have a Louis Pasteur. Take a crippled child whose only home was an orphanage, and you have a Louis E. West, the first chief executive of the Boy Scouts of America. Spit on him, humiliate him, betray his trust, say one thing and do another. Mistrust those whom he loves. Mock him. Make him carry a heavy wooden cross, and then crucify him—and he forgives you and calls you a friend.—Anonymous
SUMMARY
We came to this earth to be tested, to see if we would obey (see Abr. 3:25). In this test, opposition is the environment in which we can grow. Let us have the wisdom to understand and appreciate, even as the Prophet Joseph, that all of this opposition will be for our good, for our growth in becoming like our Savior Jesus Christ. When we recognize this, we can cope with adversity and opposition and say, like our close colleague and friend, John Covey, himself no stranger to hardship: “Just think how much I will grow when I overcome this.” Remember that the Lord will not give us anything that we cannot eventually overcome . . . for He strengthens us and will provide a way (see Alma 26:11–12; Ether 12:27; 1 Ne. 3:7).
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AGENCY
“Our missionary message to our listeners is that agency wisely applied enriches, ennobles, and sanctifies our lives as sons and daughters of God. How can we help others to understand that life-preserving strength and divine blessings flow unto them when they choose to do the will of the Lord and follow in His footsteps?”
Agency is a gift. The right to choose is necessary for our growth. We are a result of the use of our agency. Our choices and decisions determine our blessings, or the consequences of our actions. Agency can operate because there is (1) opposition in all things, (2) knowledge of good and evil, (3) laws and commandments given by God, and (4) the freedom to choose. This gift is better referred to as moral agency, which connotes responsibility and accountability in regard to our choices.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
2 Nephi 2:16. Wherefore, the Lord God gave unto man that he should act for himself. Wherefore, man could not act for himself save it should be that he was enticed by the one or the other.
We must realize that without opposition, trials, and temptation, we would be unable to exercise our agency and progress toward eternal life. We should recognize and be grateful for our opportunities for growth through challenges in life.
2 Nephi 2:27. Wherefore, men are free according to the flesh; and all things are given them which are expedient unto man. And they are free to choose liberty and eternal life, through the great Mediator of all men, or to choose captivity and death, according to the captivity and power of the devil; for he seeketh that all men might be miserable like unto himself.
We are free to choose and follow Christ to eternal life, or the devil to captivity. We should make our choices with this motto in mind: “What would Jesus have me do?”
Doctrine and Covenants 101:78. That every man may act in doctrine and principle pertaining to futurity, according to the moral agency which I have given unto him, that every man may be accountable for his own sins in the day of judgment.
Moral agency connotes that we are accountable for our actions. We will be judged by our actions; Christ is our judge and is the keeper of the gate (2 Ne. 9:41). We should have a great desire to keep His commandments, knowing that we must look into His face, knowing that He paid the price for our sins. We want to be able to do so with a clear conscience, not with a soul full of sorrow and regret for misdeeds (see Alma 36:15).
Moses 4:3–4. Wherefore, because that Satan rebelled against me, and sought to destroy the agency of man, which I, the Lord God, had given him, and also, that I should give unto him mine own power; by the power of mine Only Begotten, I caused that he should be cast down. And he became Satan, yea, even the devil, the father of all lies, to deceive and to blind men, and to lead them captive at his will, even as many as would not hearken unto my voice.
Satan seeks to take away our agency by making us think that our decisions have no consequences. He does his insidious work through subtlety, lies, and half truths (see 2 Ne. 28:7–9; Alma 12:4; 3 Ne. 2:2).
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Brigham Young:
The volition of the creature is free; this is a law of their existence and the Lord cannot violate his own law; were he to do that, he would cease to be God. . . . When the Lord made man, he made him an agent accountable to his God, with liberty to act and to do as he pleases to a certain extent in order to prove himself. (Discourses of Brigham Young, sel. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1954], 62)
Ezra Taft Benson:
The gospel can prosper only in an atmosphere of freedom. This fact is confirmed by history, as well as by sacred scriptures. The right of choice—free agency—runs like a golden thread throughout the gospel plan of the Lord for the blessing of His children. (The Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988], 81)
Lorenzo Snow:
There is the principle of God in every individual. It is designed that man should act as God, and not be constrained and controlled in everything, but have an independency, an agency and the power to spread abroad and act according to the principle of godliness that is in him, act according to the power and intelligence and enlightenment of God, that he possesses, and not that he should be watched continually, and be controlled, and act as a slave in these matters. (The Teachings of Lorenzo Snow, ed. Clyde J. Williams [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1984], 4)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
I should like to suggest three standards by which to judge each of the decisions that determine the behavior patterns of your lives. These standards are so simple as to appear elementary, but I believe their faithful observance will provide a set of moral imperatives by which to govern without argument or equivocation each of our actions and which will bring unmatched rewards. They are: 1. Does it enrich the mind? 2. Does it discipline and strengthen the body? 3. Does it nourish the spirit? (“Caesar, Circus, or Christ?” BYU Speeches of the Year, October 26, 1965, 4)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
There is wisdom in striving to understand and apply the principles and doctrines that are necessary for agency to operate:
1. Enlarge your perspective to view opposition and temptation (i.e., the need to overcome temptation) as eternal verities.
● See opposition as the key to growth—Opposition is not a hindrance to our growth, but a necessary ingredient in life that makes it possible for us to learn how to make correct choices and lift ourselves to a higher plane of wisdom.
● Cultivate an attitude of hope and persistence in the face of opposition—Our attitude towards opposition and temptation often determines our decisions. A positive attitude grounded in faith leads to an upward course in life. A negative attitude based on resignation and surrender leads to a downward course in life. We should try to be courageous and resilient in coping with difficult situations.
● Seek the noble and the spiritual dimension of life—The devil seeks to tempt us with pride, greed, lust, and all the vain things of the world. Take control when the choice is placed before you—choose the right.
● Control your environment—Remember that we often put ourselves in situations that are tempting and conducive to sin. We actually get on the “road to sin” and sooner or later the result is sin. Let us avoid compromising situations and remove ourselves out of temptation.
● Follow the Spirit—In all the temptation and opposition we face, let us never doubt our capacity to make correct choices. As we act by the Spirit, with faith, we can make good decisions.
● Sin and bad decisions limit our power to use moral agency properly—Sin separates us from God, and we lose the Spirit and the power to make good decisions. Bad habits can lead to addiction. The hopelessness caused by sin creates the feeling that our decisions don’t matter or that we can’t change. Unrighteous traditions (personal, family, or cultural) can negatively influence our choices (see Mosiah 10:11–12; Alma 37:9). An attitude that we can sin a little, receive a little punishment, and then go on with life (see 2 Ne. 28:8) is also a poor use of agency.
2. Knowledge of good and evil are necessary to exercise agency.
● Cultivate a clear understanding of the outcomes of actions—Knowledge of good and evil will teach us of the blessings and consequences of our actions.
● Study the word of God—The scriptures are the authoritative guide on agency. Make a plan to search and feast upon the word of God, thus arming yourself with the knowledge of God.
● Seek to become grounded in the doctrines of Christ—Knowledge and understanding of the doctrines, principles, and covenants of the Church will help us make correct choices.
● Remember that the devil seeks to destroy you—Wrong choices—or thinking that your choices really don’t count—often cause one to misuse their agency. Though he may make disobedience seem easier or more appealing, the devil wants us to be miserable (see 2 Ne. 2:27). Remember, “wickedness never was happiness” (Alma 41:10).
3. Laws and commandments are required for the test of our agency.
● View the commandments as instruments of liberty—Heavenly Father has given us laws and commandments to help us return to His presence. They do not infringe our liberties or constrict our progress; rather, they are the means to obtain higher liberty, even eternal life.
● Understand the connection between the commandments and happiness—The laws of God are designed to bring us happiness. Obedience to the commandments in an environment of opposition and moral choice leads to joy: “Then shall thy confidence wax strong in the presence of God” (D&C 121:45).
● View love as the bridge to obedience—Build in your heart and mind an understanding that obedience ultimately comes from love, not fear or merely a sense of outward compliance to duty. When we love God, we will keep the commandments (see John 14:21).
● Seek the strength of the Spirit—The blessing of always keeping the commandments is to always have His Spirit to be with us. This is what we covenant and are promised each week as we partake of the sacrament.
4. When we “exercise” our agency, we learn over time the godly manner of making choices.
● Enthrone accountability as the anchor of your life—Moral agency carries with it a responsibility and accountability for our actions. To accept this as a principle of life is to establish an inviolate inner compass to guide our lives.
● Listen to the Spirit—Choices and decisions should always be made by the Spirit (see 2 Ne. 32:5). The Spirit knows all things and can tell us all things we need to know (Moro. 10:5).
● Remember to do as Jesus would do—Whenever we have doubts or questions as to how we should act, remember that we have a perfect example to follow (see 3 Ne. 27:27).
● Set the standards high ahead of time—We should choose our values and standards to live by. We can know what is right and wrong through the Light of Christ (see Moro. 7:15–17), and so can make decisions based on the Spirit in advance of the situation or temptation.
● Pray and Fast—We will be strengthened (see Hel. 3:35; 3 Ne. 18:18) and directed in our decisions (see D&C 9:7–9) as we commune with Heavenly Father in this way.
● Ordinances empower us—The power of godliness is manifested in us as we keep the ordinances of the gospel (see D&C 84:20).
● Ask for priesthood blessings—Priesthood blessings, fathers’ blessings, and patriarchal blessings can help us in our use of agency.
● Remember we are the result of our choices—The law of the harvest is part of every choice. “But behold, they are in the hands of the Lord of the Harvest, and they are his; and he will raise them up at the last day” (Alma 26:7).
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
Because we have the blessing of agency, we are not “compelled in all things” (see D&C 58:26). We must learn to stay close to the Spirit and make good decisions based on inspiration and our own judgment and promptings, as the following illustrates:
Your Decisions Will Make You
Now sometimes there are problems that you face that really aren’t significant enough for the Lord to bother with. You think, “Well, I don’t understand that. The Lord is supposed to answer all my prayers.”
There is some good evidence in Section 61 of the Doctrine and Covenants that illustrates what I am talking about. This is where the Prophet and his party were traveling between Independence and St. Louis, Missouri, on the Missouri River. They had been given direction that a number of the party should go quickly on a mission. And as they were riding down the Missouri River one of the brethren saw, in open vision, the devil riding on the face of the water. That so startled them all that they stopped. They pulled over to shore in their boat and decided they had better talk this over. They talked about it among themselves, and they were in disagreement. One said, “Oh, the water is cursed, so let’s don’t go on the water, let’s go on land.”
Others said, “No, we are doing the work of the Lord, therefore he is going to protect us. It will be just as safe on the water as it will be on the land.”
They couldn’t agree and so they didn’t do anything. They just sat there. They sat there all night. The next morning the Prophet prayed to the Lord and received an answer. It is a very interesting answer, part of which reads as follows:
“I, the Lord, was angry with you yesterday, but today mine anger is turned away.
“Wherefore, let those concerning whom I have spoken, that should take their journey in haste—again I say unto you, let them take their journey in haste.
“And it mattereth not unto me, after a little, if it so be that they fill their mission, whether they go by water or by land; . . . (D&C 61:20–22.)
In other words, “It doesn’t make any difference to me how you go, but get going. Move out.” And so it is important that you make a decision on your own sometimes. . . .
Sometimes we belabor the Lord on little insignificant things like this on which we are perfectly capable of making the decision. It really won’t make any difference to him. He told them here he didn’t care whether they went by water or by land—just go. Be sure and get the job done—but go.
If you live for it, you deserve and can have the guidance of the Spirit in making decisions. And that, of course, is the thing that is most important, because the Lord knows the end from the beginning; things that sometimes appear insignificant to you on the surface may not be. If you are in tune, the Spirit will tell you, for instance, whether or not you should accept a call to fill a stake mission when you had planned on going to night school—it may seem insignificant. A lot of such calls are turned down, yet this may be a very significant decision in your life because it could put you on a course that will lead you to exaltation.
The Lord knows why you are here. Many times you don’t know. Consider the course we have talked about today, think about it, weigh, seek advice of people who have been through the experience, pray unto the Lord, be clear on your principles and don’t depart from them, and then all those decisions that deal with honesty and virtue and other things of eternal import will be made for you in advance. Take advantage of your advance preparation. That is the easy way to do it. Keep yourself in condition so you can get the spirit of the Lord, the guidance of the Spirit in all that you do. Then your decisions will be good decisions. Your decisions will make you. (Hartman Rector, Jr., Speeches of the Year, July 15, 1969, 12–14)
SUMMARY
We can use our agency wisely by using the Light of Christ (Moro. 7:15–17) and living by the Spirit (2 Ne. 32:5). Let us remember that when we fail to act on the promptings and knowledge we receive, we are still using our agency by our decision to be passive or indecisive. Passivity in the face of choice is agency by omission (failure to choose). Of all of our blessings, the freedom to choose and act should be most cherished by mankind. Heavenly Father ordained it so because He loves us and seeks only our eternal life and happiness. Our choices can bring us happiness through the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ. It behooves us to use our agency wisely.
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ANGER
“The message of the Lord’s emissaries is one of unity and peace—a state of being where we can all live in authentic harmony with our family, our neighbors, and our friends, just as the Father and the Son and the Holy Ghost are one (see 3 Nephi 11:29–41). In that spirit, we can encourage others to rise above the angers of the world and the resentments of an unforgiving culture and harvest the peace and love that flows from living the gospel of Jesus Christ with faith and endurance.”
Anger has always brought innumerable problems to all of society, perhaps more so than any of the other weaknesses of man. Anger is the inner response to a problem or event, and it is usually followed by an outward verbal or physical outburst. It is the cause of so many sins and social ills—abuse, hurtful rage, physical trauma, emotional scars, and even murder. To all of us, it can present serious problems at home, at school, at play, and at the workplace. Its damaging effects can cause physical and emotional trauma and destroy relationships. Uncontrolled anger truly is one of mankind’s greatest weaknesses and is rooted in selfishness and lack of self-control. Anger is a choice. It is a major character flaw. Whether manifest in attitude or action, anger reflects a poor internal reaction to our circumstances.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Psalms 37:8. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.
Harboring and expressing anger is not only inherently a sin, but it can result in many other unrighteous acts. This is why the Lord is so adamant about freeing ourselves from anger.
Proverbs 15:18. A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
When we control our anger, we prevent discord and contention. Contention is of the devil and must be avoided at all costs (see 3 Ne. 11:29).
Proverbs 16:32. He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
In this proverb the Lord teaches us that He cares deeply about our well-being and personal development. He wants us to overcome the flesh and perfect ourselves spiritually. This is the purpose of earth life. It takes greater strength and power to overcome our anger than to be ruled by it.
JST Matthew 5:24. But I say unto you that whosoever is angry with his brother, shall be in danger of his judgment; and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, or Rabcha, shall be in danger of the council; and whosoever shall say to his brother, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
In the King James Version the words “without a cause” are present. In both the JST and the Book of Mormon they are not present. This teaches us a great lesson. There is no place for anger, just like there is no place for pride. The Lord has made it clear that anger is not acceptable to God. We can be disappointed, but we must resolve things in love and harmony rather than in anger (see Eph. 4:31–32). This is easy to say but hard to do. The point then is simply to be better each day in controlling any expression of anger. With effort—and the blessings of heaven—we will then eventually root out all anger from our diyspositions, replacing it with a genuine concern for others and self-control within ourselves.
3 Nephi 11:29–30. For verily, verily I say unto you, he that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention, and he stirreth up the hearts of men to contend with anger, one with another.
When we are upset and respond in an angry manner, we are under the influence of the devil. He seeks to stir us up to anger so that we will behave in an un-Christlike manner. The Lord expects us to cease from contention and do away with anger.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Gordon B. Hinckley:
There is too much trouble in our homes. There is too much anger, that corrosive, terrible thing called anger. I make a plea with you, you men of the priesthood: Control your tongues. Walk out the door instead of shouting. Get control of yourselves. Love your children. Respect them. No good will come of beating them. It will only make them resentful. Treat them with love, kindness, and respect, and I do not hesitate to promise you that the day will come that you will get on your knees and thank the Lord for his blessings upon you and your family. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 25)
Brigham Young:
Now I charge you again, and I charge myself not to get angry. Never let anger arise in your hearts. No, Brigham, never let anger arise in your heart, never, never! Although you may be called upon to chastise and to speak to the people sharply, do not let anger arise in you, no, never! (Discourses of Brigham Young, sel. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1954], 265)
All the power that is gained by contending with people is usurped power. (Journal of Discourses, 1:273).
Neal A. Maxwell:
In the same way that aggressive, evil thoughts should not be offered a chair and invited to sit down, so anger should never be an overnight guest! (If Thou Endure It Well [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1996], 115)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are five things to help you understand anger and take steps to overcome it.
1. Understanding and communication often dispel anger.
● Get the facts—Take time to get the facts before acting. Strength of character is the ability to hold off until all the facts are in.
● Seek perspective—Look at things first from a higher perspective, as the Savior Jesus Christ would do. Such behavior is an admirable display of leadership.
● Talk understanding—If you feel you are on the verge of anger, use language such as, “Let me see if I understand what you are saying (doing).” “Can you help me to understand your position on this?” “Do I understand correctly? Are you saying . . . ?” Often, such an approach will dispel misperception and save you from acting foolishly.
● Seek empathy—True communication involves empathy—the ability to feel what others are feeling. Empathy brings understanding, which then can dispel anger.
● Be quick to forgive—When you feel tempted to take offense, consider the other person’s perspective. Maybe he or she wasn’t at peak performance, or didn’t know or understand the situation.
● Realize that anger is your own problem—Don’t seek to blame others for our response to a situation.
● Admit when you are wrong—It is exhausting, damaging, and deceptive to persist in arguing after you realize you may not be entirely right. “Agree with thine adversary quickly” (Matt. 5:25) ought to be even easier if deep down we see the wrongness of our actions.
2. Control your environment and control your anger.
● Find a better moment—Anger often occurs when we are tired, frustrated, or have had negative experiences. Wait for a better moment to raise issues with loved ones and associates.
● Take time—The old adage of counting to ten before you react can often diffuse the situation.
● Pray—Pray for strength to overcome your expressions of contention and anger in the environments that often affect you, such as athletic contests, competitive situations, or driving your car. Pray for understanding and patience with others.
● Reminders—Use little signs or special things that remind you to be slow to anger, or even better, to not be angry at all.
● Cultivate humor—We all admire those who can diffuse a tense situation through the skillful use of humor, which often brings disagreeing parties together long enough to gain needed perspective. “Humor is laughing in spite of it all” (Wilhelm Busch).
3. Anger may have survival roots, but it is the wrong form of expression.
● Survival reflex—It is good to respond when we discover that our survival is at risk, that the innocent are being abused, or that wholesome principles are being violated. However, there is a correct way to respond, devoid of anger and violence.
● The choice is ours—If we sense anger within ourselves, we know that we face a choice of how to express our concerns—whether through physical violence or moral leadership, retribution or peacemaking, instant retaliation or the search for long-term solutions. Anger is the tripwire for taking charge in purposeful ways.
● Maximum good—Anger is observed more often in selfish people than in selfless people. Therefore, seek solutions that lead to the maximum good for the most people.
4. Rewards exist for controlling anger.
● Balance—Anger is an expression of imbalance. Learning to control anger will promote greater well-being and balance, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Understanding that anger is a cause of physical malaise, that it has an adverse effect on your physical health, is motivation enough to find a better way.
● Unity—To control your anger will promote togetherness, unity, teamwork, and family solidarity.
● Appeal—To control your anger will make you more inviting to others and promote friendship and unity.
5. If you recognize you have a lingering problem dealing with anger, there are certain things you can do to overcome it.
● Recognition—Once you recognize the problem and acknowledge it to your Heavenly Father, ways will present themselves to overcome your feelings or expressions of anger. Noting the moment of anger enables us to seek alternatives, and over time effectively put them in place.
● Put in a “good” word—In expressing anger, you could use the statement: “I feel (upset, frustrated, angry, offended, etc.) concerning the situation.” This brings anger to a “feeling” level to be resolved, rather than being left as an explosive verbal or physical reaction.
● Get informed—Additional useful information about anger management can be obtained from books, tapes, and CDs, colleagues, and the Internet.
● Seek counseling—If the anger persists, seek professional guidance.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
The following story demonstrates how we can control our anger by looking at a situation from another’s perspective.
Dealing with Anger and Contention
The key to overcoming a spirit of anger and contention, then, is to overcome selfishness—to try to infuse empathy and compassion into our relationships. Consider an example: Ann had just finished straightening the living room in preparation for guests who would arrive in an hour. As she walked back into the room, she couldn’t believe what she saw. Right in the middle of her perfectly cleaned room, four-year-old Elizabeth had dumped the contents of the vacuum, spreading a filthy dust pile nearly three feet wide in front of the fireplace. She was looking up at her mother with a helpless expression.
“What are you doing?” were the first, almost automatic words that escaped from Ann’s lips.
“I don’t know!” cried the frustrated child, knowing that her mother had reason to be angry.
Her words suddenly made Ann see the situation from her daughter’s perspective. Her anger vanished as she realized that Elizabeth had watched her preparing the room for guests and had known that vacuuming the room was a usual part of her mother’s preparations. So she had attempted to help. Somehow, though, as she dragged the vacuum into the room, the bag had come loose on the floor.
When Ann saw the situation from her daughter’s point of view, her initial feelings of anger melted into understanding. Without pretense, Ann was able to scoop Elizabeth up in her arms and say, “Thank you for helping me with this big job. I appreciate you very, very much. Can you help me put that dirt back in the vacuum so we can finish this job together?”
Recalling the incident, Ann says, “As upset as I was, I was able to see through my false desire to control Elizabeth and recognize that she had been trying to help me. That recognition softened my heart, and I responded the way I would like to always.”
No amount of anger would have cleaned the mess up any sooner, nor would the child have learned through a demonstration of anger any worthwhile lesson that would prevent future accidents. But if the parent had responded in anger, what the child would have learned was that anger is the appropriate response in this situation. (Ensign, September 1988, 62)
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This story illustrates how following the Lord’s counsel to love our enemies, though difficult to do, can bless both their lives and our own. It also shows us how holding back when we are justifiably upset is living the higher law and is a more excellent way.
A More Excellent Way
As a young man, Brother Vern Crowley said he learned something of the crucial lesson . . . to “love others, even our enemies as well as friends.” This is a good lesson for each of us.
After his father became ill, Vern Crowley took responsibility for running the family wrecking yard although he was only fifteen years of age. Some customers occasionally took unfair advantage of the young man, and parts were disappearing from the lot overnight. Vern was angry and vowed to catch someone and make an example of him. Vengeance would be his.
Just after his father had started to recover from his illness, Vern was making his rounds of the yard one night at closing time. It was nearly dark. In a distant corner of the property, he caught sight of someone carrying a large piece of machinery toward the back fence. He ran like a champion athlete and caught the young thief. His first thought was to take out his frustrations with his fists and then drag the boy to the front office and call the police. His heart was full of anger and vengeance. He had caught his thief, and he intended to get his just dues.
Out of nowhere, Vern’s father came along, put his weak and infirm hand on his son’s shoulder, and said, “I see you’re a bit upset, Vern. Can I handle this?” He then walked over to the young would-be thief and put his arm around his shoulder, looked him in the eye for a moment, and said, “Son, tell me, why are you doing this? Why were you trying to steal that transmission?” Then Mr. Crowley started walking toward the office with his arm around the boy, asking questions about the young man’s car problems as they walked. By the time they had arrived at the office, the father said, “Well, I think your clutch is gone and that’s causing your problem.”
In the meantime, Vern was fuming. “Who cares about his clutch?” he thought. “Let’s call the police and get this over with.” But his father just kept talking. “Vern, get him a clutch. Get him a throwout bearing, too. And get him a pressure plate. That should take care of it.” The father handed all of the parts to the young man who had attempted robbery and said, “Take these. And here’s the transmission, too. You don’t have to steal, young man. Just ask for it. There’s a way out of every problem. People are willing to help.”
Brother Vern Crowley said he learned an everlasting lesson in love that day. The young man came back to the lot often. Voluntarily, month by month, he paid for all of the parts Vic Crowley had given him, including the transmission. During those visits he asked Vern why his dad was the way he was and why he did what he did. Vern told him something of their Latter-day Saint beliefs and how much his father loved the Lord and loved people. Eventually the would-be thief was baptized. Vern later said, “It’s hard now to describe the feelings I had and what I went through in that experience. I, too, was young. I had caught my crook. I was going to extract the utmost penalty. But my father taught me a different way.”
A different way? A better way? A higher way? A more excellent way? Oh, how the world could benefit from such a magnificent lesson. (Ensign, May 1992, 61)
SUMMARY
The stories about the consequences of anger are legion. They are found in every country, city, and home. Uncontrolled anger is a character flaw that needs to be addressed at every level—personal, family, school, workplace, and society at large. May we as individuals do all we can to assure that anger does not destroy; rather, let us replace it with empathy, love, and peace. Let us remember to structure our lives according to the principles of persuasion, long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, love unfeigned, kindness, pure knowledge, charity, and virtue (D&C 121:41–45).
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ATONEMENT
“What is the greatest message we can share with others who are looking for the truth? We can teach them that the Atonement of Jesus Christ has the power to bring us all back into the presence of God as His worthy sons and daughters. There is no other way back. How best can we encourage others to bring this truth into their own lives through the convincing and comforting power of the Spirit?”
Understanding the Atonement of Christ and its relationship to our eternal existence is the greatest knowledge we can have in our quest to return to God, our Eternal Father. The Atonement is the center of the gospel of Jesus Christ. When we diligently apply its principles to our lives through the covenant process—through faith unto repentance, baptism, and receiving the gift of the Holy Ghost—we become liberated from our fallen state. We become free through Christ by obedience (see Gal. 5:1). Yet it is by the grace of God that we are saved, after all we can do (2 Ne. 25:23). We apply the Atonement to our lives through the gospel and through priesthood authority in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter‑day Saints.
It is this knowledge of the Atonement and Christ’s role in our lives that will motivate and cause us to change. This is why the Book of Mormon was given to us as another witness and testament that Jesus is the Christ, the Anointed One. The Lord said, “Behold I have given unto you my gospel, and this is the gospel which I have given unto you—that I came into the world to do the will of my Father, because my Father sent me. And my Father sent me that I might be lifted up upon the cross; and after that I had been lifted up upon the cross, that I might draw all men unto me.” (3 Ne. 27:13–14).
It is by such means that the Atonement will draw us to the Lord. The reality of the Atonement demonstrates the tender mercy and the goodness of God.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
2 Nephi 9:7. Wherefore, it must needs be an infinite atonement—save it should be an infinite atonement this corruption could not put on incorruption. Wherefore, the first judgment which came upon man must needs have remained to an endless duration. And if so, this flesh must have laid down to rot and to crumble to its mother earth, to rise no more.
The Atonement is the center of the gospel plan in saving mankind. God loved us so much that He gave His Only Begotten Son (see John 3:16). This is the grace of God which enables and empowers us to be saved, resurrected, and exalted after all we can do (see 2 Ne. 25:23). We would have been subject to the devil, to rise no more, were it not for the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ (see 2 Ne. 9:8–10). This is why we should be moved to gratitude for our Savior, full of love and eager to keep the commandments.
2 Nephi 9:21–22. And he cometh into the world that he may save all men if they will hearken unto his voice; for behold, he suffereth the pains of all men, yea, the pains of every living creature, both men, women, and children, who belong to the family of Adam. And he suffereth this that the resurrection might pass upon all men, that all might stand before him at the great and judgment day.
The Atonement can save us if we hearken to the will of the Lord, that is, if we listen and do His will. He has suffered these things that we might come before Him, repentant and worthy of the Father’s presence. If we don’t repent we must suffer even as He suffered (see D&C 19:15–19). Remember that the Lord employs no servant at the gate—we must come before Him and account for how we have used His Atonement in our lives (see 2 Ne. 9:41).
Alma 7:11–12. And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people. And he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.
The suffering of our Savior through the Atonement makes possible the Lord’s understanding of our needs. He will succor us. He will understand and help us in our trials, tribulations, and even our infirmities. One comes to realize, as did father Lehi, that the Lord will encircle us in the arms of His love (see 2 Ne. 1:15).
Alma 42:23. But God ceaseth not to be God, and mercy claimeth the penitent, and mercy cometh because of the atonement; and the atonement bringeth to pass the resurrection of the dead; and the resurrection of the dead bringeth back men into the presence of God; and thus they are restored into his presence, to be judged according to their works, according to the law and justice.
The Atonement has the power to bring us back to the presence of God. There is no other way (see Hel. 5:9). The question is, Did we repent that we might make claim upon the mercy of God? Were our works the works of righteousness? Eternal life comes only to those who believe on His name (see Alma 11:40); then are just men made perfect (those who live by faith and keep the commandments; see D&C 76:69).
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Bruce R. McConkie:
To us, the central thing in the plan of salvation is the atoning sacrifice of Christ. The blessings of the creation and the fall have passed upon all mankind. Those who kept their first estate earned the right to a mortal probation. But only those who believe and obey will gain the full blessings of the atonement. (A New Witness for the Articles of Faith [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1985], 132)
Howard W. Hunter:
What does the Atonement have to do with missionary work? Any time we experience the blessings of the Atonement in our lives, we cannot help but have a concern for the welfare of our brethren. (The Teachings of Howard W. Hunter, ed. Clyde J. Williams [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1997], 248)
Henry B. Eyring:
Now, for me, at the right moment, I can begin to feel the pain the Savior felt for sins, yours and mine. His groan within himself came after he had paid the price for us, after the Atonement. His being troubled was not some abstract grief for our sins and those of the house of Israel. His was real pain, recently felt, as he took upon him the sins of the world. I can’t experience that, but I can sense it enough to have sorrow for what I have added to it. I can resolve to add no more. And I can feel determination that I will help offer the full blessings of the Atonement to as many as I can, because that passage helps me feel, in a small way, what taking upon him the sins of all mankind cost the Savior. (To Draw Closer to God: A Collection of Discourses [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 69–70)
Boyd K. Packer:
Nowhere is the generosity and kindness and mercy of God more manifest than in repentance. Do you understand the consummate cleansing power of the atonement made by the Son of God, our Savior, our Redeemer, who said, “I, God, have suffered these things for all, that they might not suffer if they would repent”? (D&C 19:16.) I know of no sin connected with transgression of the moral law which cannot be forgiven, assuming, of course, full and complete repentance. (Things of the Soul, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1996], 115)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
No member of this Church must ever forget the terrible price paid by our Redeemer who gave his life that all men might live—the agony of Gethsemane, the bitter mockery of his trial, the vicious crown of thorns tearing at his flesh, the blood cry of the mob before Pilate, the lonely burden of his heavy walk along the way to Calvary, the terrifying pain as great nails pierced his hands and feet, the fevered torture of his body as he hung that tragic day, the Son of God crying out, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34.) . . . We cannot forget that. We must never forget it, for here our Savior, our Redeemer, the Son of God, gave himself a vicarious sacrifice for each of us . . .
Everything depended on Him—His atoning sacrifice. That was the key. That was the keystone in the arch of the great plan which the Father had brought forth for the eternal life of His sons and daughters. Terrible as it was to face it, and burdensome as it was to realize it, He faced it, He accomplished it, and it was a marvelous and wonderful thing. It is beyond our comprehension, I believe. Nevertheless, we glimpse it in small part and must learn to appreciate it more and more and more. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 26–27, 30)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Some things to remember and do to make the Atonement effective in our lives include:
1. Understand the necessity of the Atonement within the plan of happiness.
● The Atonement is the foundation upon which the gospel stands—Without the Atonement, the plan of salvation would fail. Man would never be redeemed from the Fall or be resurrected. Without the redeeming power of the Atonement, we would never fill the design of our creation.
● Cultivate gratitude through understanding—The more we understand and appreciate the Atonement, the greater our gratitude will be. Gratitude draws us to Christ (see 3 Ne. 27:14–15). The Atonement is the greatest motivating force in our lives and it is worthy of the highest priority among our lifelong themes of study.
● Consider the power of the Atonement—The Atonement overcomes sin and death, lifts us above our fallen state, and resolves our separation from our Heavenly Father. It makes possible repentance and resurrection. It makes possible the return to the presence of our Heavenly Father—the “at-one-ment.” In the fullest sense the Atonement makes all things possible, including exaltation. Through the Atonement, Christ is the great Mediator, Reconciler, and Advocate. In Him is the fulness of the Father manifest (see JST John 3:34–35).
● Consider the fate of mankind without the Atonement—Mankind is otherwise subject to the devil and becomes even angels to the devil (see 2 Ne. 9:8–10). Without the Atonement, there is no resurrection (see 2 Ne. 9:7). There would be no eternal life or eternal families.
2. Recognize and remember the goodness of God and the suffering of our Savior.
● The love of God and Christ is supreme—Heavenly Father loved us so much that He gave us His Son (see John 3:16). Christ gave His life because He loved us (see 2 Ne. 26:24).
● Remember that the Lord’s work centers on His children—Everything our Heavenly Father and our Savior do is for our immortality and eternal life (see Moses 1:39). This is their work and glory. Our work and our glory should similarly be for the welfare of all mankind.
● Ponder that Christ suffered beyond our comprehension—Our Savior sweat great drops of blood in anguish for our sins (see D&C 19:18; Luke 22:44). Much has been written to help us attempt to comprehend this transcending event. Our finite minds try, yet only by the Spirit can we gain an insight into this magnificent, infinite, and eternal sacrifice. We should seek through prayer understanding and appreciation for our Savior.
3. Remember with gratitude the personal blessings that come from the Atonement.
● Repentance and forgiveness—We can repent and be forgiven because of what Christ suffered, but only by coming unto Him and taking His name upon us. This means we accept Him as our Savior and recognize and honor His atoning sacrifice through obedience. To be forgiven, we must go through the process of repentance (see Repentance). Because of His sacrifice, He has promised us that if we truly repent He will remember our sins no more (see D&C 58:42–43).
● Freedom from guilt—The Atonement does not provide amnesia, else we could too easily forget and not learn from our experiences; rather, we receive peace. Our guilt can be swept away (see Enos 1:6). We have joy in having a peace of conscience, knowing that we have been forgiven. Can anything be sweeter than knowing we are forgiven and that our Savior’s joy is full (see D&C 18:13)?
● The Savior succors us—Because of what He suffered, He knows how we feel, what we’re going through, and what we need. By this He helps us and strengthens us at all times (see Alma 7:11–12). He blesses us as we seek to serve and strengthen others (see D&C 84:85–88).
4. Apply gospel principles regularly. The blessings of the Atonement can come to us as we apply the principles of the gospel in our lives. We exercise faith unto repentance (see Alma 34:15–17), make covenants through baptism (see D&C 20:37), and then receive the gift—and gifts—of the Holy Ghost (see D&C 33:6). The blessings of exaltation can be ours as we live worthy of and receive our temple covenants and ordinances. All good things come to us because of our Elder Brother’s ultimate sacrifice, which wrought the eternal and infinite Atonement.
5. Renew and remember our covenants.
● Partake of the sacrament—Our baptismal covenants are renewed when we partake of the sacrament. We promise to keep the commandments. As the sacrament prayers indicate, this process of recommitment should help us to always remember the Savior and the infinite grace that He has extended to us.
● Attend the temple—Even though we do not renew our covenants in the temple, we certainly refresh in our minds the things that we have agreed to do, as we perform vicarious service.
● Pray—On bended knee we come to our Heavenly Father through our Savior Jesus Christ. We can come to Him because of His Son. Our Savior has reminded us to always call upon the Father in His name (see 3 Ne. 18:20–23). Through prayer we receive the blessings of God and deepen our understanding of our covenants, thus enabling and empowering us to make a recommitment to our Savior and Heavenly Father.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
The following is an account given by Orson F. Whitney in regard to a very personal application of the Atonement:
Then came a marvelous manifestation, an admonition from a higher source, one impossible to ignore. It was a dream, or a vision in a dream, as I lay upon my bed in the little town of Columbia, Lancaster, County, Pennsylvania. I seemed to be in the Garden of Gethsemane, a witness of the Savior’s agony. I saw Him as plainly as ever I have seen anyone. Standing behind a tree in the foreground, I beheld Jesus, with Peter, James and John, as they came through a little wicket gate at my right, leaving the three Apostles there, after telling them to kneel and pray, the Son of God passed over to the other side, where He also knelt and prayed. It was the same prayer with which all Bible readers are familiar: “Oh my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.”
As He prayed the tears streamed down his face, which was toward me. I was so moved at the sight that I also wept, out of pure sympathy. My whole heart went out to him; I loved him with all my soul, and longed to be with him as I longed for nothing else.
Presently He arose and walked to where those Apostles were kneeling—fast asleep! He shook them gently, awoke them, and in a tone of tender reproach, untinctured by the least show of anger or impatience, asked them plaintively if they could not watch with him one hour. There He was, with the awful weight of the world’s sin upon his shoulders, with the pangs of every man, woman and child shooting through his sensitive soul—and they could not watch with him one poor hour! . . .
All at once the circumstances seemed to change, the scene remaining just the same. Instead of before, it was after the crucifixion, and the Savior, with the three Apostles, now stood together in a group at my left. They were about to depart and ascend into Heaven. I could endure it no longer. I ran from behind the tree, fell at his feet, clasped Him around the knees, and begged Him to take me with Him.
I shall never forget the kind and gentle manner in which He stopped, raised me up, and embraced me. It was so vivid, so real. I felt the very warmth of his body, as He held me in His arms and said in tenderest tones: “No, my son; those have finished their work; they can go with me; but you must stay and finish yours.” Still I clung to Him. Gazing up into His face—for He was taller than I—I besought him fervently: “Well, promise me that I will come to you at the last.” Smiling sweetly, He said: “That will depend entirely upon yourself.” I awoke with a sob in my throat, and it was morning.
. . . I had never thought of being an Apostle, nor of holding any other office in the Church, and it did not occur to me even then. Yet I know that those sleeping Apostles meant me. I was asleep at my post—as any man is who, having been divinely appointed to do one thing, does another.
But from that hour, all was changed. I was never the same man again. (As quoted by Spencer W. Kimball, Faith Precedes the Miracle [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1972], 26)
SUMMARY
We must more fully understand the Atonement. While we cannot completely understand it, we need to strive to appreciate it and bring it into our hearts. We apply the Atonement of Jesus Christ to our lives by partaking of the principles and ordinances of the gospel. We do this through faith unto repentance, by covenanting through baptism and taking the name of Christ upon us, and by receiving from the Father the gift, power, and blessing of the Holy Ghost. We receive the ordinances and covenants of the temple that we might gain eternal life. Then we endure to the end and, through hope and charity, return to the presence of our Father and our Savior Jesus Christ. Then is the Atonement fully effective in our lives.
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ATTITUDE
“The gateway for finding meaning in life is to follow the example of the Savior. His was an attitude of unyielding obedience to the will of the Father and enduring love for all of mankind. How can we share with our listeners this same kind of redeeming truth? How can we encourage them to cultivate a life-changing attitude of hope and faith, with a commitment to follow in the pathway of the gospel of Jesus Christ?”
Our feelings and thoughts about a situation often determine our actions and the ensuing results. Literature is replete with guidance on attitude and power: “Your attitude determines your altitude,” “You are what you think you are,” “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” And the list goes on and on. A positive attitude is an important building block in one’s life. The big question is: What can you do in daily doses to maintain a positive attitude about life?
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Proverbs 23:7. For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.
The heart is the center of the soul, the mirror of the mind, and the emotional center of our very beings. Our lives eventually become the results of the feelings and yearnings of our hearts. Often, we act on our thoughts and our feelings.
1 John 3:3. And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.
When our attitude is one of hope, looking forward and being positive with faith, we tap into the power of our Savior Jesus Christ, with astounding results. Hope has power because it is interrelated to faith and charity.
Moroni 7:6–8. For behold, God hath said a man being evil cannot do that which is good; for if he offereth a gift, or prayeth unto God, except he shall do it with real intent it profiteth him nothing. For behold, it is not counted unto him for righteousness. For behold, if a man being evil giveth a gift, he doeth it grudgingly; wherefore it is counted unto him the same as if he had retained the gift; wherefore he is counted evil before God.
The attitude and motivation for our actions can make all the difference. If our attitude is good and motivated by love, our deeds are acceptable before God. As we act with hope in Christ, our capacity for righteousness increases.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Gordon B. Hinckley:
I hope that we will cultivate an attitude of looking for positive elements that lead to growth and enthusiasm. (Faith: The Essence of True Religion [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1989], 77)
The Lord has said: “Wherefore, lift up thy heart and rejoice, and cleave unto the covenants which thou hast made” (D&C 25:13).
I believe He is saying to each of us, be happy. The gospel is a thing of joy. It provides us with a reason for gladness. Of course there are times of sorrow. Of course there are hours of concern and anxiety. We all worry. But the Lord has told us to lift our hearts and rejoice. I see so many people . . . who seem never to see the sunshine, but who constantly walk with storms under cloudy skies. Cultivate an attitude of happiness. Cultivate a spirit of optimism. Walk in faith, rejoicing in the beauties of nature, in the goodness of those you love, in the testimony which you carry in your heart concerning things divine. (“Words of the Prophet: The Spirit of Optimism,” New Era, July 2001, 4)
Howard W. Hunter:
I want to tell you that despair, doom, and discouragement are not an acceptable view of life for a Latter-day Saint, however high they are on the charts of contemporary news. We must not walk on our lower lip every time a few difficult moments confront us.
I have seen a bit more of life than you. I want you to know that there have always been difficulties in mortal life and there always will be. But knowing what we know, and living as we are supposed to live, there really is no place, no excuse, for pessimism and despair. (“Why Try?” New Era, January 1994, 4)
Neal A. Maxwell:
At the center of our agency is our freedom to form a healthy attitude toward whatever circumstances we are placed in! Those, for instance, who stretch themselves in service—though laced with limiting diseases—are often the healthiest among us. The Spirit can drive the flesh beyond where the body first agrees to go! (The Neal A. Maxwell Quote Book, ed. Cory H. Maxwell [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1997], 24)
James E. Faust:
The Savior reminds us, “All things are possible to him that believeth” (Mark 9:23), and “All things shall work together for your good” (D&C 90:24). The attitude with which we submit to “all things” is important. Maintaining a positive attitude and being cheerful are helpful. A belief that “all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good” is like a spiritual stabilizer. (D&C 122:7.) (Reach Up for the Light [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1990], 83)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are four strategies you might try for improving your attitude:
1. Orient your being toward Christ and His gospel.
● Remember your heritage and your destiny—Knowing we are children of God Himself can help us have a better perspective of ourselves and others. We have been promised eternal life if we keep the commandments.
● Faith in Christ is the source of a positive attitude—Because of the Savior’s Atonement, there is hope for a better life now and in the eternities. The more we exercise faith and hope, the more positive we will feel and the better we will do.
● Living the gospel requires thinking in gospel terms—Since mental outlook has such a dynamic power in our lives, it would seem that to live the gospel requires a positive attitude. Doing much good is both the result and the perpetuation of good thoughts.
● Your deeds reflect your attitudes—Our attitude towards our eternal roles and our Church callings will be reflected in our performance.
2. Focus on the benefits.
● Self-esteem—A good attitude encourages good works and thoughts, which in turn encourages self-esteem, self-worth, and self-confidence.
● Peace—A good attitude brings peace, and peace, in turn, helps sustain a good attitude. When you are at peace with your life as it relates to your values and behavior, your attitude toward life and others is good. To feel well and be well, we must think and do well.
● Health—Research has repeatedly shown a positive relationship between attitude and physical and emotional health.
● Contagious benefits—Your attitude affects everyone you come in contact with. All will see and feel your “upbeat spirit.”
● Gratitude—An attitude of gratitude is a catalyst for righteousness.
● Overcome problems—When you have a positive attitude, your problems often become stepping stones rather than stumbling blocks, and your capacity to do good increases.
3. Give yourself the choice.
● Teach yourself—Remember that attitudes can be learned—the earlier the better. Just as you can teach a child to have a positive outlook on life, you can do the same for yourself. Set goals to create habits that cultivate a more positive attitude.
● Keep learning—The saying “What you are not up on, you are down on” confirms that knowledge and understanding not only give you power, but a change in attitude.
● Adjust your perspective—You can choose to look at things in a positive way (for example, the glass is always “half full” rather than “half empty”).
4. Serve others.
● Lift yourself by lifting others—Thinking of others always helps your own attitude and well-being; selfishness only hurts your attitude.
● Be patient—Withholding judgment and practicing patience will usually keep your attitude on a positive note.
● Give praise—Receiving praise always makes one’s attitude better. Praising others sincerely is one way you can help them develop a better attitude, and help improve your own attitude at the same time.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
This story about a child’s difficult day at school demonstrates the fact that a positive attitude can make all the difference in our lives.
The Little Quarters of Life
A story told to me many years ago by a friend proved the point that a good attitude can make the difference in everybody’s life. It was picture day at school, and the little girl talking with her mother said, “Oh, Mom, what dress can I wear?” Her mother said, “Oh, sweetheart, let’s have you wear that beautiful new white dress.” Well, she was so excited. March 15th—what a glorious day! Picture day. As you all know, she got to the bus stop first. She drew a little line in the dirt off the side of the road and stood there straight and true, first in line to get on the bus. She thought, “Picture day at school, and I’m first in line for the bus.” Along came a car she didn’t notice. Turning slightly, the car hit a chuckhole; mud splattered all over and just showered her, and she was a mess. She began to cry and ran home to her little house just a block away. “Mommy, Mommy, look, look. I’m ruined. My dress is ruined.” Her mother said, “Oh, sweetheart, you left so early. Quick, let’s put on another dress. We’ll put on your second best dress. It’s so nice.” They put on her second best dress, and she ran back to the bus stop. Just as she got there, the bus was almost ready to pull away. She reached for the door, and the bus driver not seeing her slammed the door right on her nose. Blood was everywhere. The bus driver said, “Oh dear, I’m sorry, little sweetheart.” She helped her in, gave her a hankie and there she was having a nosebleed right on the bus. The children all said, “What happened to you?” Well, tears streaming down her cheeks, she rode to school.
When she got to school her nose had stopped bleeding, and things seemed to be okay. Well, when it was time for first recess she went out on the north side of the building. To her surprise there was still a little snow. Some of the boys were just having their typical snowball fights, and one snowball went the wrong direction and hit her right in the eye. Oh, it was icy, and it did hurt. She ran in to the teacher, “Teacher, teacher!” Her eye began to swell up. The teacher said, “Oh, sweetheart, you’ve got to go on the south side of the building where it’s warm today.” Well, tears streaming out of her one good eye, she said, “Okay.”
Lunchtime came and with a little extended recess she went out to play. Gleaming in the distance were the “Trick-bars.” She climbed to the top and waved to a friend. She lost her balance and fell to the bottom. She landed on her arm and something snapped. She yelled out in pain, but as she did so she noticed something shinny on the ground, and she clutched it in her one good hand. She ran as best she could into the teacher. The teacher took her quickly to the school nurse. The nurse said, “I’m afraid we have to go the doctor. Your arm may be broken.” They put the arm in a sling and called her mother to come and take her to the doctor.
She went outside to wait. There she stood . . . scabby nose, eye swollen shut, arm in a sling, and wearing her second best dress. A smile came on her face. Her mother pulled up and while helping her into the car she said, “How can you smile at a time like this?” She replied, “Oh Mommy, Mommy my lucky day, my lucky day. I found a quarter.” Let’s make all our little quarters of life into a positive attitude.
—Ed J. Pinegar
SUMMARY
Remember: Time is your ally. Positive attitudes bring blessings to one’s life in every respect. With patience, you can cultivate a positive attitude that will be enduring. From the little train that “could,” to the athlete who picked himself up from sure defeat to go on to victory, experience proves time and again the power of your mental attitude. To cope with life it is well not just to understand the value of a positive attitude, but to practice it as well.