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TITHES AND OFFERINGS
“The Lord has given His all for the blessings of God’s children, and extends to them, in turn, the sacred opportunity to serve Him “with all [their] heart, might, mind and strength, that [they] may stand blameless before God at the last day” (D&C 4:2). This consecrated service involves the willing offering of one’s time, talents, and resources for the building up of the Kingdom of God on the earth, including the contribution of an honest tithe amounting to “one-tenth of all their interest annually” (D&C 119:4). How can the Lord’s missionaries best share with others inspiring stories and humble testimonies about how obedience to the Lord’s law of loving sacrifice will bring untold blessings unto them and their families?”
Offerings to the Lord are given in many forms. We pay ten percent of our increase to the Lord and we make other financial offerings. In addition, we offer unto the Him the sacrifice of a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3 Ne. 9:20), and we offer our devotions to Him by serving others. Tithes and other monetary offerings will be covered herein, while other types of offerings will be discussed under such topics as Charity, Consecration, Covenants, Magnifying Your Calling, Sacrifice, Good Works. By way of commandment, we give temporal offerings to the Lord, in particular our tithes and our fast offerings (see D&C 119). We must pay an honest tithe in order to obtain a temple recommend. Payment of tithes brings a multitude of blessings from our Heavenly Father, both temporal and spiritual. However, such blessings are not always manifest in the way we expect, and should not be the prime motivation for our offerings. We must remember that we owe our Heavenly Father everything; therefore, we should not withhold our oblations from Him. “And it pleaseth God that he hath given all these things unto man; for unto this end were they made to be used, with judgment, not to excess, neither by extortion. And in nothing doth man offend God, or against none is his wrath kindled, save those who confess not his hand in all things, and obey not his commandments” (D&C 59:20–21). We pay our tithes and offerings not simply to receive God’s blessings, but because we love Him and want to show Him our gratitude and obedience.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Malachi 3:8. Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings.
Heavenly Father has given us everything, including our life (see Mosiah 2:20–21). We are indebted to Him for all things, yet He asks for so little in return. When we do not pay our tithes and offerings, we not only rob Him, but we rob ourselves of the opportunity to obey.
Doctrine and Covenants 64:23. Behold, now it is called today until the coming of the Son of Man, and verily it is a day of sacrifice, and a day for the tithing of my people; for he that is tithed shall not be burned at his coming.
There are specific consequences for keeping of not keeping every commandment, including the law of tithing. The Lord has promised us that we will be spared as His Second Coming if we have faithfully paid our tithing.
Doctrine and Covenants 119:3–4. And this shall be the beginning of the tithing of my people. And after that, those who have thus been tithed shall pay one-tenth of all their interest annually; and this shall be a standing law unto them forever, for my holy priesthood, saith the Lord.
The law of tithing is simple: we should give one-tenth of our “interest” or increase annually. We should avoid making this a complicated process and simply give one-tenth of our increase.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Joseph F. Smith:
By this principle (tithing) the loyalty of the people of this Church shall be put to the test. By this principle it shall be known who is for the kingdom of God and who is against it. By this principle it shall be seen whose hearts are set on doing the will of God and keeping his commandments, thereby sanctifying the land of Zion unto God, and who are opposed to this principle and have cut themselves off from the blessings of Zion. There is a great deal of importance connected with this principle, for by it it shall be known whether we are faithful or unfaithful. In this respect it is as essential as faith in God, as repentance of sin, as baptism for the remission of sin, or as the laying on of hands for the gift of the Holy Ghost. For if a man keep all the law save one point, and he offend in that, he is a transgressor of the law, and he is not entitled to the fulness of the blessings of the gospel of Jesus Christ. But when a man keeps all the law that is revealed, according to his strength, his substance, and his ability, though what he does may be little, it is just as acceptable in the sight of God as if he were able to do a thousand times more. (Gospel Doctrine: Selections from the Sermons and Writings of Joseph F. Smith, comp. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1939], 225)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
The law of tithing is a law designed to bless us. It does not take from us, it adds to us. It is not so much a matter of money as it is a matter of faith, and great are the promises of the Lord to those who live honestly with Him in the payment of their tithes and their offerings. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 405)
Spencer W. Kimball:
My dear brothers and sisters, my message today is not a new one. Prophets of all dispensations have clearly taught the law of tithing and the principles of the gospel with regard thereto. From the beginning we have been taught that “the earth is the Lord’s, and the fulness thereof” (1 Cor. 10:26). From this fulness, the Lord requires that we dedicate one-tenth to him. Tithing is a law of God and is required of his followers. To fail to meet this obligation is to fail in a very weighty matter.
In these times of troublous economic concern and worry, we must forcefully remind ourselves, both individually and as a church, that the Lord has given us a spiritual and economic law which, when fully obeyed will bring promised blessings so great that “there will not be room enough to receive” them (Mal. 3:10).
I speak of the law of tithing, which can be our great blessing and safety, our great assurance of divine assistance. It has always been impressive to me that of all the teachings from Old Testament prophets that the Lord could have given anew to the Nephites when he visited them, he gave Malachi’s stirring promise regarding tithing. (“He Did It with All His Heart, and Prospered,” Ensign, March 1981, 3)
Marion G. Romney:
One of the important things the Lord has told us to do is to be liberal in our payment of fast offerings. I would like you to know that there are great rewards for so doing—both spiritual and temporal rewards. The Lord has said that the efficacy of our prayers depends upon our liberality to the poor. (See Alma 34:28.) (“The Blessings of the Fast,” Ensign, July 1982, 2)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are some suggestions for understanding and living the law of tithes and offerings:
1. Tithing is a commandment of God.
● Clear expectations—It is clear that the Lord expects us to return one-tenth of our “interest” or increase (see D&C 119:3–4). This is a very clear-cut command and needs no debate.
● Clear implications—If we do not pay our tithes and offerings, we are denied a myriad of blessings in this life—including temple attendance—as well as in the life to come.
2. There are blessings and consequences regarding tithing.
● Spiritual and temporal blessings—The Lord prospers us as we keep the commandments (see Mosiah 2:22). Elder Russell M. Nelson reminds us, “The law of tithing is a valuable key to the blessings of honesty and prosperity” (The Power within Us [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1988], 133).
● Protection—We will not be burned at the Lord’s Second Coming if we pay our tithing (see D&C 64:23). President Spencer W. Kimball taught, “The prophets of all dispensations have clearly taught the law of tithing for the blessing and protection of the Lord’s people” (President Kimball Speaks Out [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1981], 63).
● Growth through obedience—The main reason we pay tithes is because we love the Lord and want to be being obedient to Him.
3. We are to teach the law of tithing.
● Family learning environment—Take the time to explain to your children that Heavenly Father has given us everything, including our lives, our homes, our money, and all our other material possessions. Help them realize they are simply giving back one-tenth of what is already Heavenly Father’s.
● Tracking—Create a method for helping children keep track of tithes and offerings. For instance, they could make a box or container for tithing, one for other offerings, one for savings, and one for their personal spending. This will teach them many principles in regard to financial well-being.
● Accounting—Plan a special time each week or month for your children to make an accounting of their tithes.
● Payment—On a regular basis, have your children personally hand their donations to the bishop.
● Tithing settlement—Always take your children to tithing settlement so that they realize how important this sacred law is.
● Understanding—Teach your children how the Church uses the tithes and offerings to bless everyone, including members and people all over the world.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIMES
The prophet George Albert Smith relates how he helped a friend in the Church understand that he was not properly paying his tithing.
The Story of a Generous Man
One day on the street I met a friend whom I had known since boyhood. I had not visited with him for some time, and I was interested in being brought up to date concerning his life, his problems, and his faith, therefore I invited him to go to a conference in Utah County with me. He drove his fine car (the make of car I was driving had not been received into society at that time). He took his wife, and I took mine.
At the conference, I called on him to speak. I did not know what it might do to him, but I thought I would take a chance. He made a fine talk. He told of his trips to the East, how he explained the gospel to the people he met, and how grateful he was for his heritage. He stated that his opportunities in the world had been magnified and multiplied because his father and mother had joined the Church in the Old World.
As we drove home, he turned to me and said: “My this has been a wonderful conference. I have enjoyed it.”
I thought to myself, he was like one of our sisters who came home from fast meeting and said to her family: “That is the best meeting I ever attended.”
One of the daughters asked: “Well, Mother who spoke?” And then her mother replied, “I did.”
I thought he had enjoyed it because he himself had participated. I was glad he had. Then he said: “You know I have heard many things in this conference, but there is only one thing that I do not understand the way you do.”
I said: “What is it?”
“Well,” he said, “it is about paying tithing.”
He thought I would ask him how he paid his tithing, but I did not. I thought if he wanted to tell me, he would. He said: “Would you like me to tell you how I pay my tithing?”
I said, “If you want to, you may.”
“Well,” he said, “if I make ten thousand dollars in a year, I put a thousand dollars in the bank for tithing. I know why it’s there. Then when the bishop comes and wants me to make a contribution for the chapel or give him a check for a missionary who is going away, if I think he needs the money, I give him a check. If a family in the ward is in distress and needs coal or food or clothing or anything else, I write out a check. If I find a boy or a girl who is having difficulty getting through school in the East, I send a check. Little by little I exhaust the thousand dollars, and every dollar of it has gone where I know it has done good. Now, what do you think of that?”
“Well,” I said, “do you want me to tell you what I think of it?”
He said, “Yes.”
I said: “I think you are a very generous man with someone else’s property.” And he nearly tipped the car over.
He said, “What do you mean?”
I said, “You have an idea that you have paid your tithing?”
“Yes,” he said.
I said: “You have not paid any tithing. You have told me what you have done with the Lord’s money but you have not told me that you have given anyone a penny of your own. He is the best partner you have in the world. He gives you everything you have, even the air you breathe. He has said you should take one-tenth of what comes to you and give it to the Church as directed by the Lord. You haven’t done that; you have taken your best partner’s money, and have given it away.”
Well, I will tell you there was quiet in the car for some time. We rode on to Salt Lake City and talked about other things.
About a month after that I met him on the street. He came up, put his arm in mine, and said: “Brother Smith, I am paying my tithing the same way you do.” I was very happy to hear that. (George Albert Smith, Sharing the Gospel with Others, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1948], 44)
SUMMARY
When we understand the law of tithing, we realize that tithes and offerings are used to build up the kingdom of God here upon the earth. These monies are necessary for building chapels and temples, and for caring for the poor and the needy. We should find great joy in living the law of tithing, knowing that we become part of building up the Lord’s Church and blessing all of Heavenly Father’s children. Let us commit to paying a full tithe and making generous donations to the Church, that we may be living proof of the verity of the Lord’s promise: “Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it” (Mal. 3:10).
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TOLERANCE
“Harmony, compassion, friendly outreach—these are dimensions of tolerance in missionary service. At the same time, the Lord’s emissaries teach a higher way of living, a holier pattern of relationships, a more godly covenant manner of behavior—all leading to happiness and peace on the pathway to salvation and exaltation. That is the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ. How can we all serve more effectively—and less judgmentally—in helping others to improve their lives abundantly through the principles and ordinances of the gospel?”
Tolerance is a form of love; it implies being considerate of others, including their feelings and behavior, even if we do not necessarily approve of them. When we exhibit tolerance, we recognize the rights of others, and we allow them their beliefs without taking action against them. As we strive to be tolerant, we become free of bigotry. We come to understand the goodness in others, and that they have a great deal to contribute to our world. Righteous behavior includes tolerance. However, we must be cautious in what we will tolerate. Much in the world is unworthy and immoral, and condoning lewdness and irreverence can perpetuate it in our own lives. We must beware this tendency when it comes to our values and principles, or the world and its morals will seduce us. Tolerance for others should not involve accepting violation of the law or accepting behavior that negatively affects the well-being of society, especially the family. To tolerate crime, drugs, illicit sex, and all manner of pernicious behavior that afflicts society would make one party to the problem. We must stand for truth and virtue. Tolerance is not permissiveness and apathy; rather, tolerance is understanding.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Ephesians 4:2. With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love.
As disciples of Jesus Christ, we are commanded to show love to our fellowman. We should allow everyone the right and privilege of his or her own beliefs (see Alma 30:7; A of F 1:11).
Alma 7:23. And now I would that ye should be humble, and be submissive and gentle; easy to be entreated; full of patience and long-suffering; being temperate in all things; being diligent in keeping the commandments of God at all times; asking for whatsoever things ye stand in need, both spiritual and temporal; always returning thanks unto God for whatsoever things ye do receive.
In all things we should exercise patience and long-suffering, as well as humility in our own beliefs. This shows tolerance, charity, and love for our fellowmen.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Stephen L Richards:
When people reach the point where they can say, “I do not understand that man’s views; they do not appeal to me, but I have no reason to doubt his sincerity and he may be right,” then, and then only, may we hope for the dissipation of dogmatic bigotry which so often precludes open-minded investigation. (The Church in War and Peace [Independence, MO: Zion’s Printing and Publishing, 1943], 210)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
Let us as Latter-day Saints cultivate a spirit of brotherhood in all of our associations. Let us be more charitable in our judgments, more sympathetic and understanding of those who err, more willing to forgive those who trespass against us. Let us not add to the measure of hatred that periodically sweeps across the world. Let us reach out in kindness to all men, even toward those who speak evil of us and who would, if they could, harm us. . . .
Teach [your children] tolerance. They need not surrender their own beliefs while extending tolerance to those with other beliefs.
Teach them civility toward others. Conflict between the races will fade when all of us recognize that we are all part of one great family.
Teach them respect—respect for others, respect for the property of others, respect for the opinions of others, respect on the part of men for women and women for men. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 661, 663)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are five insights that can help us show tolerance toward our fellowmen:
1. Tolerance is a vision that sees the unseen.
● Potential—See the potential in others. See them as dynamic beings, not statically locked in their condition, but capable of learning, growing, and maturing in wisdom and productivity.
● New perspectives—Try to view life through the eyes of other people. How do they see the world? What are their dreams and aspirations? What are their fears and anxieties?
● Whole person—Avoid seeing a person as the embodiment of just one attribute, as that is mistaking the part for the whole. No one is totally bad or totally good—you can find good in nearly everyone.
2. Tolerance is understanding.
● Knowledge—Learn more about people—study, read, ask questions, explore history. Seek to understand others from the point of view of their culture and traditions. Knowledge often dispels intolerance.
● Rights—Recognize that all are not of the same persuasion and have a right to their own opinions.
● Abilities—Understand that all people do not possess the same abilities or skills. Be tolerant of others’ shortcomings as they learn and make progress in different ways and at different rates than you do.
● Age—Remember that children and youth need more understanding and tolerance than most adults. They are in a dynamic stage of life with feelings and behavior that are often hard to deal with.
3. Tolerance has natural limits.
● Inappropriate humor—Never criticize others on the basis of race, creed, gender, or physical handicap. Never utter jokes that make fun of another race or class of people—and do not tolerate it when others do so.
● Harm and injury—Do not tolerate injury or threat to your person or your family.
● Principles—As you practice tolerance, remember that it does not require sacrifice of your principles. “Tolerance is the positive and cordial effort to understand another’s beliefs, practices and habits without necessarily sharing or accepting them,” counseled Joshua Loth Liebman.
● Bigotry—Make a valiant effort to dispel any incipient prejudice and take steps to foster understanding.
4. Tolerance is leadership.
● Unity—Proactively look for things that you have in common with others, rather than things that divide.
● Common goals—Find common goals and a common vision to work toward. Usually, when people of differing backgrounds “buy into” a long-range goal, they can find ways to work together and forget the things that separate them. Find a common cause, such as hunger, lack of education, lack of opportunity, the need to improve health and well-being, etc.
5. Tolerance is love.
● Kindness—Simple courtesy, benevolence, thoughtfulness, humanity, consideration—all these overpower intolerance. When you see these traits at work, you see intolerance slink away in shame.
● Charity—Intolerance neutralizes charity; it short-circuits the innate desire to serve and do good. On the other hand, tolerance is the gateway to unconditional love. Helen Keller taught: “No loss of flood and lightning, no destruction of cities and temples by hostile forces of nature, has deprived man of so many noble lives and impulses as those which his intolerance has destroyed.”
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIMES
The following story illustrates the fact that sometimes a little tolerance can make all the difference in our lives.
A Hard Lesson to Learn
A friend of mine related a story about a man who seemed like he had it all, but simply couldn’t be happy and enjoy life. He had a wonderful family, a thriving business, a loving wife, and all the amenities that go along with financial success. Yet Tom (we will call him Tom) was always upset or disturbed about something. He was never satisfied with his children’s grades or their friends. If someone disagreed with him, he took it personally and usually ended up calling the person an “idiot” or some other unfavorable title. He always compared others with himself and criticized those who didn’t agree with him.
Everyone seemed to bother Tom—whether it was a coworker who approached problems differently, the bagboy at the grocery store putting bread in with the canned goods, or the way the next-door neighbors always seemed so happy, like life was simply the greatest. Other drivers on the road were jerks, and his children were constantly needing help—from getting dressed to not getting their duties and homework done fast enough. No one was fast enough, smart enough, or good enough for Tom. Tom was dissatisfied with life, and yet he seemed to have it all. He thought, “Why is everybody so irritating?”
As my friend told me this story, he mentioned how one day a friend of Tom’s pulled him aside and complimented him on his success and his wonderful family. Tom was taken aback and thought, “I really am blessed. Why was I so disgruntled? Why am I always upset? Why am I angry with others when they haven’t really done anything to me?” Tom took a step back and started to think:
My children are great—not perfect, but great. I love them. They are just learning to become adults. Their friends are nice—just because one’s hair is a little long, the funny girlfriend with that horrible foreign accent is hard to understand, or one boy is always blowing his nose—why should these things bother me? My friend at work really wants the company to succeed. Just because his ideas are different than mine doesn’t mean he’s wrong. When I changed lanes the other day without signaling and someone honked at me, maybe I was the jerk. When my neighbor came out smiling and mentioned how great everything was, I could have thought, “What a great attitude.”
As Tom changed his way of looking at things, life started to be better. Tom became satisfied with his children—even praising them and their friends. He even mentioned to his coworker how he had been thinking about his idea and what a unique way of looking at the problem it was. Tom was no longer dissatisfied, upset, or unhappy—he had learned tolerance.
—Ed J. Pinegar
SUMMARY
As we show tolerance, we rise above the pettiness of intolerance and bigotry. Our world today needs the rekindling of virtue. We must be tolerant of others, but at the same time we must be champions of peace and purity. Charity does not require tolerance for abuse, war, or any manner of wickedness. In reality, tolerance is seeking to understand others and allow them to believe and act according to their desires, as long as it does not affect the freedom of others. Tolerance is to be practiced in righteousness. The heart and soul of tolerance can be found in the words of the Savior: “Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (D&C 59:6; see also Lev. 19:18; Matt. 19:19).
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TRUST
“Trusting in the Lord is a principle central to the gospel of Jesus Christ. We can share with others the principle of enhancing their trust in the Lord through continual prayer, loyal obedience, and devoted service—rather than fostering obsessive allegiance to worldly goods and relationships that vanish into the sunset with no residual value. How can we confirm to others the truth that authentic spiritual trust—in the Lord, in ourselves, and in our families and fellow Saints—brings grand and abundant blessings of strength, peace, comfort, security, deliverance, wisdom, and joy?”
A primary ingredient in strong and enduring relationships is trust. Trust is the confidence people place in each other, the reliability of a relationship. The oft-quoted statement, “It is better to be trusted than to be loved” is probably true in building relationships—especially as it relates to personal matters. Of course, it is best to be both trusted and loved, and trust and love go hand-in-hand. Trust enriches and ennobles love. The corollary holds true: “Without love, trust is nothing.” Trust also derives from honesty and integrity, which must be absolute. In the world today, there is a critical need for people and nations to trust one another, and to be trustworthy. Our greatest lesson in trust and trustworthiness, though, comes from the Lord. Even more than trusting each other, we need to trust in Him, for He is ever constant and will not fail.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Proverbs 3:5–6. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Trust in the Lord empowers us to live righteously. We gain strength knowing that the Lord is there and that He knows all things, has all power, and will help us at all times (see D&C 84:88). When we rely on Him, He will lead us to do good, to do His will, and our trust in Him will dispel fear (see Isa. 12:2). Let us not assume that our understanding is adequate; rather, let us always be willing to receive counsel from the Lord (see 2 Ne. 9:28–29).
2 Nephi 4:34. O Lord, I have trusted in thee, and I will trust in thee forever. I will not put my trust in the arm of flesh; for I know that cursed is he that putteth his trust in the arm of flesh. Yea, cursed is he that putteth his trust in man or maketh flesh his arm.
Nephi wisely counsels us to always rely on the Lord and to never trust in the strength of humanity when it comes to eternal and exalting power. Only the Lord has power to save us spiritually. However, we can have confidence in our teachers and entrust to them the task of teaching us eternal truths—if they walk in the ways of the Lord (see Mosiah 23:14).
Alma 36:3. And now, O my son Helaman, behold, thou art in thy youth, and therefore, I beseech of thee that thou wilt hear my words and learn of me; for I do know that whosoever shall put their trust in God shall be supported in their trials, and their troubles, and their afflictions, and shall be lifted up at the last day.
We can always rely on the Lord, for He will bless us in our trials and our afflictions, and He will lift us up at the last day (see Mosiah 23:22). When we trust in the Lord, we will listen to His words, follow His prophets, and keep His commandments.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
David O. McKay:
Absolute trust in the Lord will awaken a desire, at least, to try to live in accordance with Christ’s teachings, chief of which is to love, not hate one another. (Gospel Ideals: Selections from the Discourses of David O. McKay [Salt Lake City: Improvement Era, 1953], 35–36)
These young men are instructed that they go out as representatives of the Church, and that a representative of any organization—economic or religious—must possess at least one outstanding quality, and that is Trustworthiness. He was right who said, “To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.” And whom do these missionaries represent? First, they represent their parents, carrying the responsibility of keeping their good name unsullied. Second, they represent the Church, specifically the ward in which they live. And third, they represent the Lord Jesus Christ, whose servants they are. These ambassadors, for such they are, represent these three groups and carry in that representation one of the greatest responsibilities of their lives. (Pathways to Happiness [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1957], 179–180)
George Q. Cannon:
We must be a tried people. We must walk by faith, putting our trust in the Lord and not, at present, by sight. In this way the leaders of the people of God, as well as the people themselves, have their faith tested. (Gospel Truth: Discourses and Writings of President George Q. Cannon, ed. Jerreld L. Newquist [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1987], 300)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
Accept responsibility in the Church, and trust in the Lord to make you equal to any call you may receive. Your example will set a pattern for your children. Reach out in love to those in distress and need. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 391)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are four suggestions that can help in building trust:
1. Trust in God. The beginning of trust is trust in God. That is the standard of excellence you should strive for—to emulate the example of Deity, in whom you can have perfect trust. If you can be honest with our God, then you can learn to be honest with your fellow human beings.
2. To be trusted is a badge of honor that pays great dividends.
● Trust generates peace—The fruits of deceit and broken promises are discord, suspicion, anger, and even hatred. On the other hand, where trust governs human behavior, you will find balance, harmony, and peace.
● Trust opens the door to opportunity—Your word is a solemn bond that commits you to action and trust. Too often today, one’s word is considered a casual thing, subject to all manner of silent contingencies, but it should never be so. If you give your word and make it your policy to keep it, people will trust you, and you will get the reputation as one in whom confidence can be vested.
● Trust builds friendships—Trust acts like a magnet, attracting allegiance and loyalty. It forges lasting bonds between you and others. Having a reputation of trust is a priceless asset for life.
3. Trust is a quality that can be cultivated.
● Start with your word—Make your word your bond: If you make a promise to anyone, keep it. To be trusted, you must be trustworthy.
● Evaluate carefully before committing to an outcome—Carefully weigh the projects you commit to. Make sure you have the skills, resources, and time to perform as required before you give your commitment. Don’t create unrealized expectations—it destroys confidence and trust.
● Become a master at follow-through—Once you commit to others to do something, do it. Never become undependable. Do your duties well and on time. Be one of whom people say, “There’s a person who keeps his (her) word.”
● Communicate clearly—Make sure communication is understood in order to avoid unnecessary problems and questions regarding your commitments.
● Avoid gossiping and backbiting—Nothing will sully your reputation more quickly than gossiping or backbiting. Always treat others with dignity and respect, whether they are present or not.
4. Trust is an important dimension of leadership.
● Start with the family—Trust is inaugurated in the family, where it should be cultivated, taught, and made a high priority among to indispensable values.
● Teach trust one step at a time—Trust can be taught among children and subordinates little by little. Begin with small tasks and small commitments. Combine accountability with appropriate follow-up and rewards (or consequences). Gradually increase the responsibility until each individual is granted the seal of honor and trust, meaning that his or her word is a bond of value.
● Stand up for trust and integrity—Whatever the situation—in the community, in athletic competition, in business matters, in politics—make your voice known as one who stands for trust and honor.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIMESS
The following personal story shows how one son learned to trust through a simple gardening lesson.
Pumpkins Really Come from Seeds—Trust Me
As a young parent I was trying to help my sons, Brett and Cory, learn about the power within a seed—how God had created this little seed that could grow and grow and grow. I said, “Trust me; these little seeds are going to become pumpkins. We are going to have jack-o-lanterns for Halloween.” They looked at me with doubt, for they had never seen a pumpkin seed before, and not having been raised on a farm, they couldn’t imagine that something as big as a pumpkin could come from these little seeds. I told them that there would be many pumpkins from each plant. I even showed them the package of seeds with the picture. They thought about it, then verified once more, “You mean, Dad, that these little seeds will actually become pumpkins?” I replied, “Yep, they sure will. Trust me.”
I then explained how we had to plant the seeds, then water, fertilize, and weed the area so that the plants would grow. It would take work, and the hard thing was that it would take a long time. It would take patience. The boys would check to see how the seeds were doing every day. Nothing was happening. I reminded them it would take two to three months for the pumpkins to grow, but that pretty soon a little green sprout would come out of the ground. I reminded them, “Trust me.”
The day finally came when the little green sprout started to come from all the “mounds” where we had planted the seeds. The boys were excited, and so was I. The summer passed, and the pumpkins grew. The boys said, “I can’t believe it. Those little seeds made these great big pumpkins. We trust you, Dad.” Sweet words to a daddy. It was a valuable lesson in my own trustworthiness. Perhaps, in a small way, it is how our Heavenly Father feels about us. We cannot always see the outcome of what He commands; we can’t even imagine how what He tells us will work. But if we heed these simple words, “trust in me,” we too will see miracles occur.
—Ed J. Pinegar
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In a story about Alexander the Great, we learn of the great value in choosing trustworthy friends.
The Cup of Vitality or the Cup of Death?
During his invasion of Persia, Alexander the Great was at one point taken seriously ill, thus causing a delay in the advance of his armies. Because of the political intrigue and atmosphere of suspicion that attended the grand movements of Alexander’s entourage, the physicians on the scene did not dare to administer any medicine for fear of losing their reputation—or even their lives—should the outcome prove unseemly. Yet one physician, Philip the Acarnanian, a close friend of Alexander, stepped forward with medication he claimed was indispensable for the cure. As it turned out, at the very same time, Alexander had received a letter from one of his Macedonian staff warning him against Philip, claiming that the latter was involved in a conspiracy with the enemy, Darius III of Persia, to bring about Alexander’s death. Alexander read the letter and then placed it beneath his pillow without showing it to anyone.
What happened next is worth revisiting in the words of the historian Plutarch: “when Philip came in with the potion, he [Alexander] took it with great cheerfulness and assurance, giving him meantime the letter to read. This was a spectacle well worth being present at, to see Alexander take the draught and Philip read the letter at the same time, and then turn and look upon one another, but with different sentiments; for Alexander’s looks were cheerful and open, to show his kindness to and confidence in his physician, while the other was full of surprise and alarm at the accusation, appealing to the gods to witness his innocence, sometimes lifting up his hands to heaven, and then throwing himself down by the bedside, and beseeching Alexander to lay aside all fear, and follow his directions without apprehension.”
In a short time, as a consequence of Philip’s skillful treatment, Alexander recovered fully from his sickness and showed himself once again to his armies, much to their relief. Thus was memorialized one of the great illustrations in history of the implicit trust that a great personality had for one of his loyal friends. Philip must have in times past proven his great level of trustworthiness. How great to be known for such integrity. That level of trust which places one’s life in the hands of another—even one accused of disloyalty and treachery—is indeed the highest possible level of trust.
—Richard J. Allen
SUMMARY
Within the family and society the element of trust is essential for harmony and peace. When trust is lost, one lives with anxiety and in extreme cases, even justifiable paranoia. Marriages are put in jeopardy and families are destroyed in the wake of the loss of trust. We can choose this outcome, or we can be people of integrity. Let us make it our solemn goal to be trustworthy. Let us use the pattern given us by heaven: “And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, Lord, hast not forsaken them that seek thee” (Ps. 9:10). And again: “Trust ye in the Lord for ever: for in the Lord Jehovah is everlasting strength” (Isa. 26:4).
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TRUTH
“The message of the missionaries of the Lord is centered in truth—glorious truth concerning the restored fulness of the gospel leading to salvation and exaltation. Our missionary message is that faithful obedience to the truth is the only gateway to liberation and redemption, the only pathway leading us back once again to the celestial home of the Father and the Son to be “crowned with honor, and glory, and immortality, and eternal life” (D&C 75:5). How can we enlighten our manner of teaching according to the Lord’s counsel—“that he that receiveth the word by the Spirit of truth receiveth it as it is preached by the Spirit of truth” (D&C 50:21)?”
Truth is found in the Lord Jesus Christ. He is “the light, and the life, and the truth of the world” (Ether 4:12). One of the main purposes of our Savior is to “bear witness unto the truth” (John 18:37). Truth is found in all the things of God: His word (see John 17:17), His law (see Ps. 119:142), and His works (see Dan. 4:37). Truth is further described as “knowledge of things as they are, and as they were, and as they are to come” (D&C 93:24). Truth is enduring and eternal (see D&C 88:66). While a wealth of half-truths and non-truths exists, we have fortunately been given the means to discern truth. The Holy Ghost can testify to us of the truth of all things (see Moro. 10:5), but such revelation of truth is contingent on our worthiness. The process of enlightenment is clear: “He that keepeth his commandments receiveth truth and light, until he is glorified in truth and knoweth all things” (D&C 93:28). We are to seek diligently after truth, and the truth will make us free (see John 8:32).
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
John 14:6. Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
As we come unto Christ, we will be filled with truth and light. Our lives will have the standard of truth, and the life of Christ will not only save us through the infinite Atonement but will show us the way to live.
Doctrine and Covenants 93:36–37. The glory of God is intelligence, or, in other words, light and truth. Light and truth forsake that evil one.
Light and truth have power to overcome the evil one, and will not dwell in the presence of evil. Because we possess light and truth, we can more easily identify sin and therefore avoid it. When we seek the glory of God, our whole bodies are filled with light and we comprehend all things (see D&C 88:67).
Doctrine and Covenants 93:39. And that wicked one cometh and taketh away light and truth, through disobedience, from the children of men, and because of the tradition of their fathers.
Satan does not want us to know the truth, so he tempts us away from it. Whenever we choose to disobey the Lord, we lose the Spirit and diminish our light and truth.
Doctrine and Covenants 93:40. But I have commanded you to bring up your children in light and truth.
We have a duty to teach our children the truth of all things as pertaining to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Many have been chastened by the Lord for not teaching their children, and so shall we if we fail to teach them (see D&C 68:25–28; 93:42–48).
Doctrine and Covenants 123:12. For there are many yet on the earth among all sects, parties, and denominations, who are blinded by the subtle craftiness of men, whereby they lie in wait to deceive, and who are only kept from the truth because they know not where to find it—
We are blessed with the truth of the gospel, and we have an obligation to share it with everyone with whom we come in contact. Our fellow beings need to be invited to hear the word of God, because they need an alternative to the deceit the world offers. Let us stand up boldly as witnesses for the truth. Let us pray for all those who do not know God (see Alma 6:6).
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Gordon B. Hinckley:
The marvelous and wonderful thing is that any individual who desires to know the truth may receive that conviction. The Lord himself gave the formula when he said, “If any man will do [God’s] will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or whether I speak of myself.” (John 7:17.) (Faith: The Essence of True Religion [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1989], 5)
Hugh B. Brown:
Any open-minded search for truth requires courage, constancy, and humility. To quote an ancient prayer:
From the cowardice that shrinks from new truth,
From the laziness that is content with half truth,
From the arrogance that thinks it knows all the truth,
O God of truth, deliver us.
Any thoughtful, prayerful search for truth reveals that God is our Father, and that He is a person, that His glory is intelligence, and that He had a will, a purpose, and a plan in creating the universe and providing for man’s earth life. (The Abundant Life [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1965], 276)
Thomas S. Monson:
Fill your mind with truth. I’d like to suggest that when we search for truth, we search among those books and in those places where truth is most likely to be found. I’ve often referred to a simple couplet: “You do not find truth groveling through error. You find truth by searching the holy word of God.” There are those who for direction and inspiration turn to the philosophies of man. There a smattering of truth may be found, but not the entire spectrum. (Be Your Best Self [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1979], 169)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are several ideas for finding and living the truth in Christ:
1. Seek His word, His law, and His commandments.
● Listen to the Spirit (see 2 Ne. 32:5).
● Search and feast upon the scriptures (see 2 Ne. 32:3).
● Listen to the words of the living prophets (see D&C 1:38; 21:4–6; 3 Ne. 28:34–35).
● Fast and pray to understand the word of God (see Alma 5:46).
● Attend the temple regularly (see D&C 97:13–14).
2. Discern truth from error.
● Seek the truth—Study and learn by faith that you might know the truth (see D&C 88:118). When we have a value system based on the truth, we will have a standard to judge all things and we will not be deceived. Declared Plato: “The true lover of knowledge must, from childhood up, be most of all a striver after truth in every form.”
● Love the truth—That which we truly love will become our standard for knowledge as well as behavior. The truth will make us free from sin and error (see John 8:32).
● Keep an eye single to the glory of God—We can be filled with light, and we can attain a state where we can comprehend all things (see D&C 88:67) and discern between truth and error.
● Use discernment—Beware of the sophistries and false traditions of men, inspired by the devil. We must follow the prophets and the counsel of God and not depend upon the learning of man (see 2 Ne. 9:28–29).
● Listen to the Spirit—Always listen to the Spirit, for it will tell us the truth of all things (see Moro. 10:5) and we will judge righteously (see D&C 11:12). “It is by that Spirit that one is able to discern truth from untruth,” confirmed Roy W. Doxey (The Doctrine and Covenants Speaks [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1964], 1: 393).
3. Live the truth.
● Avoid and overcome temptation—Search the scriptures (see 1 Ne. 15:24) and pray (see 3 Ne. 18:18). As we come to further know the truth, we will be more likely to live it, avoiding even the temptation and deceit of sin.
● Remember to keep the covenants—As we renew our covenants by partaking of the sacrament, we will have renewed power to keep the commandments while always remembering our Savior, the source of truth.
● Have faith in God—The Lord will provide a way (see Ne. 3:7) and give us strength as we humble ourselves before Him (see Ether 12:27).
● Surrender your will to the Lord—Just as the Savior gave His will to Heavenly Father (see John 6:38), we must do likewise as servants of God (see Eph. 6:6). We must yield our hearts to God that we might be sanctified (see Hel. 3:35). “People cannot change truth—but truth can change people,” declared one anonymous writer.
● Set an example for your children—When we realize that our children will follow our example, it will give us the strength to live the truth for their sakes, if for no other reason.
● Recognize the blessings of living the truth—We will receive all that the Father has (see D&C 84:38)—even a fulness of truth and light and knowledge of all things (see D&C 93:26–28).
● Love God with all your heart, might, mind, and strength—If we love God completely, our desires will be to Him and keeping His commandments (see John 14:15).
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIMESS
In the famous story of a man searching for diamonds, we learn that sometimes we search far and wide for truth when it exists in very close proximity.
The Truth Shall Make You Free
Pilate asked, “What is truth?” (John 18:38). People have been struggling with this question for centuries. Each man or woman has the responsibility to find the truth.
Another appropriate question is, “Where can truth be found?” Perhaps a clue to the answer can be found in the following story:
Ali Hafed, an ancient Persian, owned much land and many productive fields, with orchards and gardens, and had money out at interest. He had a lovely family and was “contented because he was wealthy, and wealthy because he was contented.”
An old priest came to Ali Hafed and told him that if he had a diamond the size of his thumb, he could purchase a dozen farms like his. Ali Hafed said, “Will you tell me where I can find diamonds?”
The priest told him, “If you will find a river that runs through white sands, between high mountains, in those white sands you will always find diamonds.”
Said Ali Hafed, “I will go.”
So he sold his farm, collected his money that was at interest, and left his family in the charge of a neighbor, and away he went in search of diamonds, traveling through many lands.
The man who purchased Ali Hafed’s farm led his camel out into the garden to drink, and as the animal put his nose into the shallow waters, the farmer noticed a curious flash of light in the white sands of the stream. Reaching in, he pulled out a black stone containing a strange eye of light. Not long after, the same old priest came to visit Ali Hafed’s successor and found that in the black stone was a diamond. As they rushed out into the garden and stirred up the white sands with their fingers, they came up with many more beautiful, valuable gems. Thus were discovered the diamond mines of Golconda, the most valuable diamond mines in the ancient world. Had Ali Hafed remained at home and dug in his own cellar or anywhere in his own fields rather than traveling in strange lands, he would have had acres of diamonds (adapted from Russell H. Conwell, Acres of Diamonds [1915], 4–9).
The search for truth is often not unlike Ali Hafed’s search for diamonds. The truth is not in distant lands but under our feet. Sir Winston Churchill once said of someone, “Occasionally he stumbled over the truth, but hastily picked himself up and hurried on as if nothing had happened” (in The Irrepressible Churchill Stories, ed. Kay Halle [1966], 113). (James E. Faust, “The Truth Shall Make You Free,” Ensign, September 1998, 2)
SUMMARY
As the Lord said, the truth will make us free (see John 8:32). However, knowing the truth is not enough. We are commanded not only to know the truth and discern truth from error, but to live the truth. Our salvation depends upon making our life a pursuit of living the truth. Apostle Joseph B. Wirthlin confirmed this doctrine when he taught: “We must learn the truth, love the truth, and live the truth” (Finding Peace in Our Lives [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1995], 139). When we live what we learn as it pertains to eternal truth, we become free from sin and the power of Satan, who seeks to destroy us and bring us down to hell. We become free to enjoy life and to pursue happiness. This should be our goal—to know the truth and live the truth, and thus enjoy the blessings of eternal life.
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UNDERSTANDING
“The Lord’s missionaries help bring spiritual understanding into the lives of those with whom they converse. Understanding is the companion to faith, the mentor of hope, and the protector of covenant values. Understanding brings great blessings of salvation and peace to the Saints of obedience and valor, and to their families. As the scripture confirms: “Understanding is a wellspring of life unto him that hath it” (Proverbs 16:22). How can we all use the divine counsel of the Lord to improve our spiritual understanding and bring relief and happiness into the lives of our listeners?”
To understand and be understood is the essence of effective communication. When we come to understand something, we gain an appreciation for the underlying causes, logic, and operations pertaining to it. As we begin to understand the things of God, our attitude and behavior change, and we cultivate a sense of gratitude to our Heavenly Father. Understanding is the companion to faith, the mentor of hope, and the protector of covenant values. To understand something or someone requires effort, ability, perception, and a host of other intellectual and empathetic capacities. The ability to understand is of major importance in our lives. Our aim should be to understand universal concerns such as life, relationships, family values and roles, life after death, and many more important and meaningful things.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Psalms 119:34. Give me understanding, and I shall keep thy law; yea, I shall observe it with my whole heart.
Understanding the things of God will give us the power to keep the commandments with all of our hearts. Understanding provides a sense of purpose for our obedience. Our Savior and our prophets have counseled us to search the scriptures, fast and pray, and live by the Spirit in order to understand the things of God.
Proverbs 3:13. Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding.
Happiness is dependent upon our understanding. When we understand and receive the love of God, we avoid the effects of misunderstanding—contention, envy, and strife—and we are happy (see 4 Ne. 1:15–16).
Alma 32:28. Now, we will compare the word unto a seed. Now, if ye give place, that a seed may be planted in your heart, behold, if it be a true seed, or a good seed, if ye do not cast it out by your unbelief, that ye will resist the Spirit of the Lord, behold, it will begin to swell within your breasts; and when you feel these swelling motions, ye will begin to say within yourselves—It must needs be that this is a good seed, or that the word is good, for it beginneth to enlarge my soul; yea, it beginneth to enlighten my understanding, yea, it beginneth to be delicious to me.
When we plant the word of God in our hearts, we feel good. The word enlarges our soul, the Spirit enlightens our understanding, and the word is delicious to us. We then desire to feast upon the word, which will tell us all things to do (see 2 Ne. 32:3). This is because the word of God enlightens our understanding and kindles within us a sense of commitment and devotion to the truth and to the Savior.
Doctrine and Covenants 50:10–12. And now come, saith the Lord, by the Spirit, unto the elders of his church, and let us reason together, that ye may understand; Let us reason even as a man reasoneth one with another face to face. Now, when a man reasoneth he is understood of man, because he reasoneth as a man; even so will I, the Lord, reason with you that you may understand.
The Lord wants to help us understand, and He asks us to reason with Him (see Isa. 1:18). He told Nephi through the Spirit to take Laban’s life—a very hard thing for Nephi to understand. Once Nephi understood, he said, “I did obey the voice of the Spirit,” and he took Laban’s life in order that a whole nation would not sink into ignorance and be lost (see 1 Ne. 4:10–18).
Doctrine and Covenants 50:22. Wherefore, he that preacheth and he that receiveth, understand one another, and both are edified and rejoice together.
With understanding comes edification by the Spirit. We should seek to understand the scriptures and the prophets through prayer, rather than finding fault or using the reasoning of man to accommodate our behavior or present situation.
Doctrine and Covenants 76:12. By the power of the Spirit our eyes were opened and our understandings were enlightened, so as to see and understand the things of God.
When we worthily seek the Spirit, we, like the Prophet Joseph and Sidney Rigdon, can have our eyes opened and understand the things of the Lord. Listening to the Spirit is the key to understanding. We should live worthy of the Spirit at all times, that we may receive inspiration, especially when we do not know what to do (see 1 Ne. 4:6).
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Joseph F. Smith:
But let every man seek earnestly to understand the truth and teach his children to become familiar with those truths of heaven that have been restored to the earth in the latter-days. (Gospel Doctrine: Selections from the Sermons and Writings of Joseph F. Smith, comp. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1939], 5)
George Q. Cannon:
If we do anything, let us do it understandingly. If we hear any principle taught from the stand that we do not understand, let us seek to comprehend it by the Spirit of God. . . . “I do not know whether this is true or not; I will not fight it, neither will I endorse it, but I will seek knowledge from God, for that is my privilege, and I will never rest satisfied until I have obtained the light I require.”
If you hear a doctrine that does not agree with your feelings or that you do not believe, take this course; do not reject nor endorse hastily without knowing or understanding. By taking this course you will develop the principle that God designs we should possess, and we will thus become a wise and understanding people, for we will be based on the rock of revelation. (Gospel Truth: Discourses and Writings of President George Q. Cannon, ed. Jerreld L. Newquist [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1987], 270)
Marion G. Romney:
When the witness comes, however, it is very real and powerful. He whose desire to know the living God is strong enough to induce him to follow the prescribed course can and will get the witness for himself. Then he will understand what the Lord was saying in these scriptures. However, he who does not so seek will never understand these scriptures, nor the revelations which God has given of himself. (Look to God and Live [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1971], 21)
Bruce R. McConkie:
Those who have faith and understanding always seek to harmonize into one perfect whole all the statements of the scriptures and all the pronouncements of the Brethren. (Sermons and Writings of Bruce R. McConkie [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1998], 231)
Ezra Taft Benson:
To study by faith is to seek understanding and the Spirit of the Lord through the prayer of faith. (The Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988], 309)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are four ideas and principles to help us learn how to understand:
1. Knowledge precedes understanding.
● Get the facts—Before taking action, first seek out information to appreciate the subject or the person. This is absolutely essential. “A man of understanding hath wisdom” (Prov. 10:23).
● Go to informed sources—Assemble the best information from the best sources—the scriptures, statements from the Brethren, books, experts, and other proven sources of wisdom.
● Be prepared to invest effort—Understanding takes initiative and effort; it is not a passive skill. Prepare to exert effort, whether in your studies or your relationships.
● Be prepared to invest time—Understanding sometimes comes over time. Therefore, time is your ally in coming to understand anything. Resist the urge to step in with judgment or recommendations until you have a knowledgeable grasp of the situation.
2. Using all your faculties gives you a greater ability to understand.
● Use multiple points of view—The key to a better understanding of people is to combine your sources of information: include their words, their body language, and their actions—both what they do and what they choose not to do.
● Use the heart—Listen not only with your ears, but with your heart. Don’t judge solely on the words you hear, but also rely on what you feel.
● Practice empathy—You can never fully understand another person until you try to feel his or her emotions.
● Adjust your perspective—Remember that you see things by your perception—recognize this and account for it.
● Remember the Spirit—The highest form of listening is to discern and understand spiritual promptings. Responding to inspiration is a quality that demonstrates humility, and a desire to learn. Pray for more understanding and wisdom.
3. Leadership cultivates understanding and clarity.
● Project the vision—A principal role of leadership is to articulate vision and objectives with such clarity that the team understands and then takes action with purpose.
● Cultivate clarity of expression—Learn to express yourself with clarity and precision, so that you cannot be misunderstood.
● Avoid misunderstanding—Where helpful, use disclaimers such as: “In saying this, I do not mean to imply . . .” or “Please don’t misunderstand. I am not saying . . .”
● Close the loop—Understanding is an interactive process. Test your own understanding by expressing what you believe you have heard, and then ask the simple question, “Is this what you mean?” Then listen closely to what the other person says.
4. Understanding is a gift to others.
● Build self-confidence—Realize that listening holds important consequences and benefits for the person you listen to. There are few human experiences that cause a person to increase in self-confidence more rapidly than when someone truly listens to him or her.
● Provide the best resources—Understanding a person means that you can better channel to him or her the correct resources at the right time in the right manner.
● Foster freedom of choice—It is an act of kindness to say to a person, after you have listened to all that has been said, “What are your options? What do you think you should do?” In doing this, you honor a person’s right to choose.
● Create harmony—Would you rather preside over a home of strict control and structured order, or one of understanding and harmony? Understanding creates harmony and love.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIMES
A story by Thomas S. Monson demonstrates that the understanding of even a small child can lead to great understanding in others.
A Five-year-old Missionary
Our daughter, Ann, turned five shortly after we arrived in Canada, where I served as mission president. She saw the missionaries going about their work and she too wanted to be a missionary. My wife demonstrated understanding by permitting Ann to take to class a few copies of the Children’s Friend. That wasn’t sufficient for Ann. She wanted to take a copy of the Book of Mormon, and she talked to her teacher, Miss Pepper, about the Church.
I thought it rather thrilling that long years after our return from Toronto, we came home from a vacation and found in our mailbox a note from Miss Pepper that read:
Dear Ann,
Think back many years ago. I was your school teacher in Toronto, Canada. I was impressed by the copies of the Children’s Friend which you brought to school. I was impressed by your dedication to a book called the Book of Mormon.
I made a commitment that one day I would come to Salt Lake City and see why you talked as you did and why you believed in the manner you believed. Today I had the privilege of going through your visitors’ center on Temple Square. Thanks to a five-year-old girl who had an understanding of that which she believed, I now have a better understanding of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Miss Pepper died not too long after that visit. How happy our daughter Ann was when she attended the Jordan River Temple and performed the temple work for her beloved teacher whom she had friendshipped long ago. (Thomas S. Monson, Inspiring Experiences That Build Faith: From the Life and Ministry of Thomas S. Monson [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1994], 151)
SUMMARY
When you come to an understanding of something or someone, you learn to appreciate the value of that thing or that person. Our relationships in life are based upon understanding and trust. Without these qualities it would be difficult to maintain lasting relationships. Our power to comprehend and understand reflects on our ability to learn and to apply that knowledge for our betterment and for the betterment of others. As the scriptures confirm: “Understanding is a wellspring of life unto him that hath it” (Prov. 16:22).
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UNITY
“When students of the gospel listen to the testimony of the Lord’s missionaries and act obediently in accordance with the promptings of the Spirit, they are welcomed into Zion: “And the Lord called his people ZION, because they were of one heart and one mind, and dwelt in righteousness; and there was no poor among them” (Moses 7:18). In addition, when they become members of the restored Church, they have access to the blessings of the temple and the sealing powers that ensure the eternal nature of families in the realms of glory. They can be one with their loved ones forever. How can we do more each day to help the spirit of love and harmony unfold among us “because of the love of God which did dwell in the hearts of the people” (4 Nephi 1:15)?”
Unity among the Saints, being one even as the Father and the Son are one, is what Christ prayed for in Gethsemane (see John 17:11). We are to be one in thought, in purpose, and in all the desires of our heart. The Lord spoke plainly in our day concerning unity among His followers when He said, “I say unto you, be one; and if ye are not one ye are not mine” (D&C 38:27). This oneness was experienced in the primitive Church in the days of the early Apostles (see Acts 4:32), and among the Nephite nation following the personal ministry of the resurrected Christ (see 4 Ne. 1:15–16). Unity provides for increased service and blessings through concerted effort and cooperation. Unity overcomes contention (see 3 Ne. 11:27–28) and, in turn, the devil, the father of contention. Unity allows the Spirit to bless all those of one heart and one mind.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Romans 12:5. So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.
“The unity of the Saints is unique and powerful. . . . We enjoy that unity through love. We can neither purchase nor force it. Our method is to ‘persuade, . . . and bless with wisdom, love, and light, . . . but never force the human mind.’ [‘Know This, That Every Soul Is Free,’ Hymns, no. 240.] To the extent we operate in other ways, we diminish our right to be recognized as disciples of Christ” (John K. Carmack, “United in Love and Testimony,” Ensign, May 2001, 76).
Philippians 2:2. Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.
We bring great joy to the Lord and to those who love us when we exhibit unity and togetherness, which reflects love, harmony, and peace. When we are unified we truly have compassion for one another (see 1 Pet. 3:8).
Doctrine and Covenants 38:27. Behold, this I have given unto you as a parable, and it is even as I am. I say unto you, be one; and if ye are not one ye are not mine.
It is vital that we seek unity of testimony and purpose in the Church and in our families. When all agree on a common value system, steps toward unity of action can commence.
Moses 7:18. And the Lord called his people Zion, because they were of one heart and one mind, and dwelt in righteousness; and there was no poor among them.
We cannot be a Zion people if we do not all align ourselves with the Lord. With the Nephites, this oneness brought peace and righteousness for a time. Unity should be our goal for our family and as members of the Church.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Brigham Young:
The Savior sought continually to impress upon the minds of His disciples that a perfect oneness reigned among all celestial beings—that the Father and the Son and their Minister, the Holy Ghost, were one in their administration in heaven and among the people pertaining to this earth. Between them and all the heavenly hosts there can be no disunion, no discord, no wavering on a suggestion, on a thought or reflection, on a feeling or manifestation; for such a principle would differ widely from the character of him who dictates them, who makes his throne the habitation of justice, mercy, equity, and truth. If the heavenly hosts were not one, they would be entirely unfit to dwell in the eternal burnings with the Father and Ruler of the universe. . . .
We must become of one heart and mind, in order to fully enjoy the blessings we anticipate.
If we are united, we are independent of the powers of hell and of the world. . . .
A perfect oneness will save a people, because intelligent beings cannot become perfectly one, only by acting upon principles that pertain to eternal life. (Discourses of Brigham Young, sel. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1954], 282)
Henry B. Eyring:
Where people have that Spirit with them, we may expect harmony. The Spirit puts the testimony of truth in our hearts, which unifies those who share that testimony. The Spirit of God never generates contention (see 3 Ne. 11:29). It never generates the feelings of distinctions between people which lead to strife (see Joseph F. Smith, Gospel Doctrine, 13th ed. [1963], 131). It leads to personal peace and a feeling of union with others. It unifies souls. A unified family, a unified Church, and a world at peace depend on unified souls. (“That We May Be One,” Ensign, May 1998, 66)
Howard W. Hunter:
Of course, the key to a unified church is a unified soul—one that is at peace with itself and not given to inner conflicts and tensions. So much in our world is calculated to destroy that personal peace through sins and temptations of a thousand kinds. We pray that the lives of the Saints will be lived in harmony with the ideal set before us by Jesus of Nazareth. (“That We May Be One,” Ensign, May 1976, 105)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are several ideas to help us increase unity in our personal lives, our families, and in our Church service.
1. Understand the benefits. Recognize the power of unity within one’s personal life. If we go contrary to our values and standards, we violate ourselves. If we are not one with our values, we will suffer from self-deception, which turns into diminished self-worth and compromised self-respect. Unity of purpose and fidelity to our values brings self-confidence and enhances self-esteem.
2. Agreed-upon values bring unity. Seek to create a value system within the group that can be understood, appreciated, and applied by all involved. This brings unity to the family and/or group.
3. Synergy produces results. The power of cooperation is brought to bear when unity is strong .
4. Seek to understand. Understanding one another and the values each person stands for is the key to unity. We cannot stand together if we don’t know where each other stands.
5. Seek eternal blessings. The blessings of unity include peace, purity of motive, being of one mind and of one purpose, dispelling contention, having the Spirit present, and being one in the Lord (see Gal. 3:28).
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIMESS
In the following personal story, the lack of harmony and unity in a ward was resolved by a resourceful brother who took action instead of joining in the contention.
Harmony: The Business of Saving Souls
When we first moved into the ward, we soon became aware of a controversy that was fomenting a good deal of discussion in hallway and classroom alike. It seemed that an evergreen tree near the front entrance had originally been planted somewhat too close to the building during the construction phase in 1937. Now the mature tree was growing at a considerable angle to the wall, which was of concern to many. The ward seemed to be divided into factions—one of them wanting to remove the tree, another insisting on doing nothing, and a third voting to trim the tree aesthetically. I noted that priesthood meetings were not infrequently given over to debating the issue. Finally, we came to church one Sunday and found that the tree had completely disappeared. It seems one resourceful brother, having had his fill of the bickering and murmuring, had come on Saturday and taken the tree out all by himself, removing all the debris clean as a whistle. He showed up at the meetings that day with a peaceful and satisfied look on his face, and many if not most of us said a silent prayer of thanks in our hearts that someone had had the wisdom to exorcise the spirit of contention and arguing over inconsequential matters. After that, it seemed much easier to get back to the business of saving souls.
It is so easy to find distraction in our course of righteousness. The devil would have us fret with one another over trivial matters to avoid becoming unified on the more weighty matters of life. The Savior said: “And there shall be no disputationsamong you, as there have hitherto been; neither shall there be disputations among you concerning the points of my doctrine, as there have hitherto been. For verily, verily I say unto you, he that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention, and he stirreth up the hearts of men to contend with anger, one with another. Behold, this is not my doctrine, to stir up the hearts of men with anger, one against another; but this is my doctrine, that such things should be done away” (3 Ne. 11:28–30). Our course is clear, and we ought to seek only to be unified in following the Savior’s words: “Learn of me, and listen to my words; walk in the meekness of my Spirit, and you shall have peace in me” (D&C 19:23).
—Richard J. Allen
SUMMARY
Unity with our Heavenly Father and our Savior is essential to the work of the kingdom. Without unity, the Spirit cannot influence our lives or the people we serve. For this reason, the Lord prayed for this most important aspect in the lives of His disciples (see John 17:11). Let us seek unity by aligning our values and standards with the principles and ordinances of the gospel and having the courage and dedication to live them. The will of God will become our only desire when we will willingly submit to all things He commands us to do. Then we will be one with Him and our Savior.