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COVENANTS
“Eternal covenants provide the means whereby we can receive the blessings of exaltation from our Heavenly Father and His Only Begotten Son. “And this shall be our covenant—that we will walk in all the ordinances of the Lord” (D&C 136:4). What are some of the effective strategies we can apply to understand with greater clarity the power of making enduring covenants with God and thus learn how best to honor these covenants and share the truths of the gospel with others?”
Eternal covenants are binding agreements between God and His children. God gives the covenants through revelation to His prophets. We, with our moral agency, can agree to and enter into these covenants if we are worthy. There are many covenants and ordinances we can participate in within the Church. The essential covenants and ordinances are baptism, receiving the gift of the Holy Ghost through confirmation as a member of the Church, priesthood covenants, and temple covenants and ordinances, which include washings and annointings, the endowment, and temple sealings. These eternal covenants, provide the means whereby we can receive the blessings of exaltation from our Heavenly Father.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Mosiah 18:8–10. And it came to pass that he said unto them: Behold, here are the waters of Mormon (for thus were they called) and now, as ye are desirous to come into the fold of God, and to be called his people, and are willing to bear one another’s burdens, that they may be light; Yea, and are willing to mourn with those that mourn; yea, and comfort those that stand in need of comfort, and to stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places that ye may be in, even until death, that ye may be redeemed of God, and be numbered with those of the first resurrection, that ye may have eternal life—Now I say unto you, if this be the desire of your hearts, what have you against being baptized in the name of the Lord, as a witness before him that ye have entered into a covenant with him, that ye will serve him and keep his commandments, that he may pour out his Spirit more abundantly upon you?
The covenant and ordinance of baptism is necessary to enter into the Church and kingdom of God. It is also the gateway into the celestial kingdom. We covenant to be members of His fold, witnessing of Him and lifting His children (see James 1:27). If we are faithful to our covenants by always remembering the suffering of our Savior, by taking His name upon us, by always remembering Him (see D&C 20:37, 77, 79) by keeping the commandments to the end of our mortal lives (see 2 Ne. 31:19–20), we can enjoy the blessings of eternal life. This should be our goal.
Doctrine and Covenants 52:15–16. Wherefore he that prayeth, whose spirit is contrite, the same is accepted of me if he obey mine ordinances. He that speaketh, whose spirit is contrite, whose language is meek and edifieth, the same is of God if he obey mine ordinances.
We must pray with a broken heart and a contrite spirit, but this in itself is not enough. Drawing near Deity with our lips when our hearts are not focused on keeping the covenants is not acceptable to the Lord (see JS–H 1:19). The Lord is displeased and the earth is defiled by the breaking and changing of the ordinances and covenants (see Isa. 24:5). Obedience to our covenants is the true expression of our love; in this we can stand approved of the Lord and draw near unto Him.
Doctrine and Covenants 84:33–40. For whoso is faithful unto the obtaining these two priesthoods of which I have spoken, and the magnifying their calling, are sanctified by the Spirit unto the renewing of their bodies. They become the sons of Moses and of Aaron and the seed of Abraham, and the church and kingdom, and the elect of God. And also all they who receive this priesthood receive me, saith the Lord; For he that receiveth my servants receiveth me; And he that receiveth me receiveth my Father; And he that receiveth my Father receiveth my Father’s kingdom; therefore all that my Father hath shall be given unto him. And this is according to the oath and covenant which belongeth to the priesthood. Therefore, all those who receive the priesthood, receive this oath and covenant of my Father, which he cannot break, neither can it be moved.
The “oath and covenant” of the priesthood is among the most sublime bestowals of honor, blessing, and sacred obligation granted by God unto His children on earth. Everything the Father has is to be shared with the faithful and elect holders of the priesthood of the Almighty, and those women who sustain and honor the priesthood, based on covenant obedience and righteousness. The Lord makes clear that this blessing—an integral part of the Abrahamic Covenant—is given “not for your sakes only, but for the sake of the whole world” (D&C 84:48). It is through our faithfulness to our covenants that the Lord blesses not just us, but all His children.
Doctrine and Covenants 132:6–7. And as pertaining to the new and everlasting covenant, it was instituted for the fulness of my glory; and he that receiveth a fulness thereof must and shall abide the law, or he shall be damned, saith the Lord God. And verily I say unto you, that the conditions of this law are these: All covenants, contracts, bonds, obligations, oaths, vows, performances, connections, associations, or expectations, that are not made and entered into and sealed by the Holy Spirit of promise, of him who is anointed, both as well for time and for all eternity, and that too most holy, by revelation and commandment through the medium of mine anointed, whom I have appointed on the earth to hold this power . . . are of no efficacy, virtue, or force in and after the resurrection from the dead; for all contracts that are not made unto this end have an end when men are dead.
Only those covenants made with God through God’s authority are eternal. Receiving and honoring the new and everlasting covenant of marriage is necessary for the highest degree of exaltation. It is necessary for eternal increase (see D&C 131:2–4). We must be true and faithful to this covenant so that it can be sealed by the Holy Spirit of Promise.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
James E. Faust:
If you keep the covenants and commandments of God, you will have the joy promised by the Savior when he walked upon the earth. You will have “peace in this world, and eternal life in the world to come.” (D&C 59:23.) (Reach Up for the Light [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1990], 69)
Howard W. Hunter:
This question may appear as a play on the words of the Lord when he said this is the true and living church. When I ask, “Am I a true and living member?” my question is, Am I deeply and fully dedicated to keeping the covenants I have made with the Lord? Am I totally committed to living the gospel and being a doer of the word and not a hearer only? Do I live my religion? Will I remain true? Do I stand firm against Satan’s temptations? He is seeking to cause us to lose our way in a storm of derision and a tide of sophistry. We can have victory, however, by responding to that inner voice calling “Stand firm!” (That We Might Have Joy [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1994], 149)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
The priest at the sacrament table places all in the congregation under sacred covenant. The offering of the prayer is not a ritual to be thoughtlessly spoken. It is, rather, the voicing of an obligation and a promise. Cleanliness of hands, as well as purity of heart, should be taught to the priests who officiate at the sacrament table. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 484)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Some ideas on how we can better understand and keep our covenants:
1. Understanding and appreciating our covenants.
● Careful study—An in-depth study of the doctrines, principles, ordinances, and covenants of the Church requires searching the scriptures and the words of our living prophets (see D&C 84:43–45; D&C 21:4–6). The more we learn of our covenants, the more we know how to keep them.
● Pray for understanding—Knowledge comes to us from our Heavenly Father by the Holy Spirit. He can reveal to us eternal truths that bring a comprehension of those things we seek to know and understand and appreciate (see Prov. 3:5; Alma 17:2). Many times we need to pray and accept things on faith, and in time we will have a witness (see Ether 12:6). We will be filled with gratitude, which will give us a desire to keep our covenants.
● Keep the covenants—We will know the truth of, and receive the benefit of, the covenants of God primarily by living the doctrines and commandments of God (see John 7:17). We can and will receive the blessings of eternal life by keeping the covenants and enduring to the end (see 2 Ne. 33:4; D&C 101:38–40).
● Temple worship—The more we return to the temple, the more our understanding is deepened. Revelation to many truths can come as we seek enlightenment within the walls of the house of the Lord (see D&C 97:13–16).
2. Keeping our covenants.
● Plan to remember—A system for remembering is the key to not forgetting. It is easy to forget due to the busyness of life and the ease of the way (see Hel. 12:2–3). Many covenants include a command to “always remember” (see D&C 20:77, 79). A sign, note, a friend to help, a regular happening (the ring of the doorbell, the telephone, etc.)—such simple things can awaken within us a remembrance of our covenant promises.
● Prayer—Earnest, sincere prayer is absolutely essential to receive the strength necessary to keep the commandments.
● Exercise your faith—In faith, all things can be done (see Moro. 7:33). Faith moves us to action and gives the power to do all things. Remember, the Lord will provide a way to do what He commands (see 1 Ne. 3:7).
● Write a mission statement—Your mission statement could include references to the covenants you have made, including the commitments of obedience involved and reminders of the great spiritual benefits that accrue therefrom. Take the time to review your mission statement on a regular basis.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
Author Richard J. Allen uses an example from early Church history to illustrate the importance of missionary work in keeping our covenants with the Lord.
Honoring the Abrahamic Covenant
The Lord promised Abraham: “in thy seed after thee . . . shall all the families of the earth be blessed, even with the blessings of the gospel, which are the blessings of salvation, even of life eternal” (Abr. 2:11). According to this royal covenant, Israel was assured a homeland upon the earth and an inheritance in the mansions of the heaven, a bounteous earthly progeny, and (in keeping with the new and everlasting covenant of marriage) eternal increase in the hereafter. Israel is also promised the blessings of the fulness of gospel truth in the temporal sphere, followed by salvation and exaltation in the hereafter for the faithful and obedient. By divine decree, the obligation under this magnificent covenant was that Israel was to convey priesthood blessings to the entire world and spread the gospel of saving ordinances to the receptive children of God in all lands.
In keeping with this august commission, the Prophet Joseph Smith penned a letter on Thursday, May 14, 1840, to Orson Hyde and John E. Page, who were en route on their mission to the Jewish people in Europe and Palestine. Here is an excerpt: “Although [your mission] appears great at present, yet you have but just begun to realize the greatness, the extent and glory of the same. If there is anything calculated to interest the mind of the Saints, to awaken in them the finest sensibilities, and arouse them to enterprise and exertion, surely it is the great and precious promises made by our heavenly Father to the children of Abraham; and those engaged in seeking the outcasts of Israel, and the dispersed of Judah, cannot fail to enjoy the Spirit of the Lord and have the choicest blessings of Heaven rest upon them in copious effusions. Brethren, you are in the pathway to eternal fame, and immortal glory; and inasmuch as you feel interested for the covenant people of the Lord, the God of their fathers shall bless you. Do not be discouraged on account of the greatness of the work; only be humble and faithful. . . . He who scattered Israel has promised to gather them; therefore inasmuch as you are to be instrumental in this great work, He will endow you with power, wisdom, might, and intelligence, and every qualification necessary; while your minds will expand wider and wider, until you can circumscribe the earth and the heavens, reach forth into eternity, and contemplate the mighty acts of Jehovah in all their variety and glory” (HC, 4:128–29). Thus the Prophet teaches the scope and significance of the mission of the Church in honoring and fulfilling its obligations under the Abrahamic Covenant. He also teaches that in honoring and fulfilling covenants, we are endowed with “power, wisdom, might, and intelligence, and every quality necessary.” Although John E. Page fell by the wayside, Orson Hyde continued with his mission and dedicated Palestine on Sunday, October 24, 1841, for the return of the Jewish people and the building of a future temple in Jerusalem.
—Richard J. Allen
SUMMARY
Keeping our sacred covenants is a matter of eternal life—our eternal life. Blessings are predicated upon our faithfulness to our covenants (see D&C 130:20–21). Nothing can bring about the ultimate blessings of God in our lives unless we are diligently keeping our covenants. Let us never forget or take lightly these promises we have made to our Heavenly Father. He will always honor us as we honor our commitments to the covenants of everlasting life.
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DATING AND COURTSHIP
“What does the process of dating and courtship have to do with missionary work? A great deal! Dating and courtship, a process initiated in the early stages of coming together, truly never ends, but continues forever to the future time when families will be received in the heavenly court of eternal glory. How can we share with our listeners the supreme truth that “The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan” (from “The Family: A Proclamation to the World”[1995])?”
One of the most dynamic times in life is the dating and courting period. Those going through this adventure are faced with several challenges: understanding themselves, relating to people of the opposite sex, finding that “one and only” person, keeping up in schoolwork, cultivating job connections, fostering regular friendships, and participating in family life—all at the same time. People (including anxious parents) often say, “We’re so glad we’re through the dating and courting period. It was so pressure-packed. What a relief!” Recognizing that this is a challenging time, we would be well advised to follow some time-proven principles of survival and success as we navigate the white-water rapids of this critically important life phase. This is especially true in the context of the courting process as conducted in keeping with the principles and values of the gospel and preparing for temple marriage.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Authors’ Note: As you can imagine, there are few specific ideas on dating and courtship in the scriptures as compared with other topics. In dating and courtship it seems that we should simply be our best selves and keep the commandments. Why? Because we want a worthy companion and a temple marriage.
Matthew 7:12. Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
Living the Golden Rule is the strategy that dating persons should live by. It covers a multitude of principles and commandments. If you follow this strategy, your relationship will be built upon love. Each will truly care for the other person and his or her well-being.
Mosiah 2:41. And moreover, I would desire that ye should consider on the blessed and happy state of those that keep the commandments of God. For behold, they are blessed in all things, both temporal and spiritual; and if they hold out faithful to the end they are received into heaven, that thereby they may dwell with God in a state of never-ending happiness. O remember, remember that these things are true; for the Lord God hath spoken it.
Righteousness has its reward—never-ending happiness in the presence of God. The timetable for marriage is different for everybody. Nevertheless, if we are righteous we can partake of all the blessings from our Heavenly Father.
Doctrine and Covenants 88:40. For intelligence cleaveth unto intelligence; wisdom receiveth wisdom; truth embraceth truth; virtue loveth virtue; light cleaveth unto light; mercy hath compassion on mercy and claimeth her own.
As we interact with others, we attract and are attracted to those who are like us in beliefs, values, and goals in life. Seek to be the kind of person you want your eternal companion to be.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Boyd K. Packer:
Actually the loan of the car would not be as serious as you suppose, for should it be destroyed completely, it could be replaced. But there are some problems and some hazards with dating for which there is no such fortunate solution.
When you are old enough you ought to start dating. It is good for young men and women to learn to know and to appreciate one another. It is good for you to go to games and dances and picnics, to do all of the young things. We encourage our young people to date. We encourage you to set high standards of dating.
When are you old enough? Maturity may vary from individual to individual, but we are rather of the conviction that dating should not even begin until you are well into your teens. And then, ideal dating is on a group basis. None of this steady dancing, steady dating routine. Steady dating is courtship, and surely the beginning of courtship ought to be delayed until you are almost out of your teens.
Dating should not be premature. You should appreciate your parents if they see to that. Dating should not be without supervision, and you should appreciate parents who see to that. . . .
Be open with your parents. Communicate with them. Discuss your problems with them. Have prayer with them before a dating event.
Stay in group activities. Don’t pair off. Avoid steady dating. The right time to begin a courtship is when you have emerged from your teens.
Heed the counsels from your bishop, from your priesthood and auxiliary teachers, from your seminary teacher. (Memorable Stories and Parables of Boyd K. Packer [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1997], 56)
Harold B. Lee:
Now, again, I would have you remember that the purpose of dating which leads to courtship and ultimately to marriage is a social process by which young people ultimately find their mates in marriage. It is a truism that we find our husband or wife among that company we frequent the most. (The Teachings of Harold B. Lee, edited by Clyde J. Williams [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1996], 221)
Ezra Taft Benson:
Clearly, right marriage begins with right dating. . . . Therefore, this warning comes with great emphasis. Do not take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless. [You] may say, “Oh, I do not intend to marry this person. It is just a ‘fun’ date.” But one cannot afford to take a chance on falling in love with someone who may never accept the gospel. (Come, Listen to a Prophet’s Voice [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1990], 8)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
1. Ideals to help you in your dating and courting experience.
● Courtesy—Good manners never go out of style. Young men: Be the perfect gentlemen. Young women: Be ladylike in every way. (And it doesn’t matter how young or old you are.)
● Respect—Consideration for each other is simply a must.
● Understanding—Make sure you understand each other. An unrealized expectation usually results in negative feelings or responses.
● Timeliness—Always address concerns as soon as possible. If allowed to persist, they often become problems that are magnified, and hence the relationship suffers.
● Problem-solving—When experiencing concerns, never attack with words like, “You did . . .” or “It was your . . .” but rather, “I feel . . .” Feelings are usually less attacking in nature and express the idea of “I don’t understand . . .” and “My perception is different than yours . . .” The “I feel” approach is an open-ended formulation that invites dialogue and fosters the process of sharing and finding common ground.
● Standards—The process of dating and courtship is just that—a process of exploring promising relationships and potential commitments. It should not involve the intimacy and responsibility of marriage. Keep your standards and appreciate the other person’s good values as well.
● Enjoyment—Make dating and courting a fun and enjoyable experience. Seek to get to know each other. Do fun things together and in groups.
● Consideration—Always follow the Golden Rule.
● Communication—Seek to convey your feelings and ideas clearly. Often people complain about the “games” everyone plays in dating. Be open and honest with the person you are dating. Don’t keep them guessing and wondering what you think.
● Planning—In planning dates it is important to consider both persons’ likes and dislikes. Remember that if you’re courting, you should consider a variety of activities, not all just playing, but working and serving together. This way you get to know the other person in different kinds of settings.
2. Ideas for parents of young people.
● Be a good example—The greatest gift that parents and leaders can give a dating son or daughter is to be loving with each other, and to demonstrate to the best of their ability how to cope with stress and solve problems—and still stay friends and devoted partners. This example gives the young person confidence and security to move forward. Single-parent homes can still teach the principles of coping with life’s problems and overcoming challenges successfully, while fostering cherished and exemplary memories.
● Help set boundaries—Parents need to help the dating son or daughter establish wholesome boundaries and prudent protocols about what is appropriate and correct concerning hours to be kept and rules to be observed.
● Help them build a strong foundation—This is a period of intense consideration of values and principles for life. The dating son or daughter needs help in coming to terms with governing principles such as honor, integrity, fidelity, commitment, selflessness, devotion to another, wholesome and healthful patterns of behavior, and cultivating a legacy for a new generation. This is the time to keep spiritual things in focus and remember the enduring gospel principles. Pray with and for your maturing children.
● Encourage group dating—As early dating begins, encourage group activities. Youth will avoid compromising situations, as well as get to know more people and develop stronger social skills.
● Give guidance on feelings—Parents can help the dating son or daughter sort out the tricky emotions and understand the difference between infatuation and commitment for the long term.
● Teach self-reliance—Parents need to balance their intense concern for the well-being of their son or daughter with the need to start to let him or her move through the transition toward self-determination and maturity.
● Provide a welcome setting—Make the home available to young people as they date and socialize. Make the home a gathering place where young people feel welcome to come as they crisscross the community in search of pleasant diversions and opportunities to explore wholesome relationships.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
The following story tells us how a young couple searched diligently for the answer to an important question.
“The Answer”: A Parable
Two young people, very much in love, were pondering the awesome step of marriage. Under such circumstances, it was the custom in their culture to seek out a certain wise man who lived high in the mountains, and ask for his advice. So one spring day, the young man took his truly beloved and hiked up the steep slope to the cabin of the venerated old grandfather.
“We have come, Sir,” said the young man in hushed tones, “to hear your wisdom in our situation.” The slender old patriarch said nothing, but beckoned the couple to enter and sit on the mat beside him. “We are very much in love,” continued the young man, “and wonder if it is the correct thing for us to be married.”
The old man remained silent. For an awkward moment, not a word was spoken among them. The young woman presently took courage, and repeated, “Honored Sir, our question is: Should we marry?”
Finally the old man smiled and, reaching for a weathered scroll nearby, unrolled it and handed it to the eager young couple. It was titled, “The Seven Deepest Questions.”
The young man took the scroll and, in quiet reverence, slowly read aloud the words:
For the noble—Are you nobler together, than apart?
For the visionary—Are your eyes unseeing toward all others except this one special person?
For the quiet—Do you have joy in the silence, just being together?
For the selfless—Do you find no greater satisfaction in all the world than in making this one person happy?
For the free—Is your spirit free as the wind and free as the river—just to be in this person’s presence?
For the peaceful—Does this companionship yield for you an ocean of harmony and a sky of peace?
For the living—Do you see in this person the doorway to an abiding family for the coming generation?
“If so, dear young people,” said the old man, “then you have answered your own question.”
For a long while, the two young people, hands held tightly interlocked, stared deeply into each other’s eyes, entranced. Then, smiling and bowing, they thanked their aged teacher, and, hand in hand, made their way slowly down the mountain trail, oblivious to all else around them. They had their answer.
—Richard J. Allen
SUMMARY
Make dating and courting an enjoyable experience by following these simple ideas and remaining in tune with the Spirit. Seek those who share your dreams in life, and your beliefs in God. Find someone you cannot only laugh with, but work with too. When you “fall in love,” keep your standards high. Create memories you can enjoy together.
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DEATH
“At times we have the opportunity to share the peace and comfort of the gospel with those who have experienced the death of a loved one—or who for medical reasons believe that death may be just around the corner for themselves or others in their family circle. What greater joy is there in such cases than gaining a fuller understanding of the grace of the Lord and the healing power of His gospel? What are the most effective ways to share this truth with others and show them how to light candles of hope and consolation for their families?”
Life is full of things we do not understand. One of the most difficult is death. In our finite mortal minds, death is difficult and seemingly final. The sorrow is deep due to the loss of the loved one and the relationship. But let’s remember: All who come to earth must die, for it is part of the plan (see 2 Nephi 9:6). Temporal death is a temporary separation of our body and spirit, for the spirit never dies. Through the power of the resurrection, the soul is reunited and all mankind will live again. Given that knowledge, one should seek to live life to its fullest by keeping the commandments and preparing to meet God.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
1 Corinthians 15:22. For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive.
Mortality brings with it the promise of death as well as resurrection. This knowledge should fill us with hope as well as encourage us to live well while here upon the earth.
Alma 12:24. And we see that death comes upon mankind, yea, the death which has been spoken of by Amulek, which is the temporal death; nevertheless there was a space granted unto man in which he might repent; therefore this life became a probationary state; a time to prepare to meet God; a time to prepare for that endless state which has been spoken of by us, which is after the resurrection of the dead.
Life is a test, a time to see if we will keep the commandments (see Abr. 3:25). Death ends our mortal probation. In death we learn humility, knowing that God is over all. Death is a beginning of the transfer from one state of being (mortality) to another state (immortality). If we are true to our covenants and exercise our faith, death will not have so much sorrow. Sorrow in death comes from the knowledge of unrepentant sins (see Morm. 5:11).
Doctrine and Covenants 101:36. Wherefore, fear not even unto death; for in this world your joy is not full, but in me your joy is full.
Due to our gospel perspective regarding the afterlife, death no is something we should not fear. While we should live life to its fullest, we know that it is in God that our joy is full. Whenever it is His will that we leave this earth we can know that our life and progression will continue, and that if we are worthy, we will dwell with Him again.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Joseph Smith:
The only difference between the old and young dying is, one lives longer in heaven and eternal light and glory than the other, and is freed a little sooner from this miserable, wicked world. Notwithstanding all this glory, we for a moment lose sight of it, and mourn the loss, but we do not mourn as those without hope. . . . It mattereth not whether we live long or short on the earth after we come to a knowledge of these principles [the principles of the gospel] and obey them unto the end. (History of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 7 vols. 4:554, 555)
Spencer W. Kimball:
Certainly it is not so much that men die, or when they die, but that they do not die in their sins.
“Those that die in me shall not taste of death.” (D&C 42:46.) I think that means they are not going into the other world feeling resentment and reticence. After they get past a certain point they go with happiness, peace and contentment. . . .
Why should a young mother die? Why should her eight children be left motherless? Why did not the Lord heal her of her malady?
A young man died in the mission field, and people critically questioned: “Why did not the Lord protect this youth while he was doing proselyting work?”
I wish I could answer these questions fully. Sometime we’ll understand and be reconciled.
The following conclusions are my own, and I take full responsibility for them.
. . . Could the Lord have prevented these tragedies? The answer is yes. The Lord is omnipotent, with all power to control our lives, save us pain, prevent all accidents, drive all planes and cars, feed us, protect us, save us from labor, effort, sickness, even from death. But is that what you want? Would you shield your children from effort, from disappointments, temptations, sorrows, suffering? The basic gospel law is free agency. To force us to be careful or righteous would be to nullify that fundamental law, and growth would be impossible.
Should we be protected always from hardship, pain, suffering, sacrifice, or labor? Should the Lord protect the righteous? Should he immediately punish the wicked? If growth comes from fun and ease and aimless irresponsibility, then why should we ever exert ourselves to work or learn or overcome? If success is measured by the years we live, then early death is failure and tragedy. If earth life is the ultimate, how can we justify death, even in old age? If we look at mortality as a complete existence, then pain, sorrow, failure, and short life could be a calamity. But if we look upon life as an eternal thing stretching far into the pre-earth past and on into the eternal post-death future, then all happenings may be put in proper perspective.
Is there not wisdom in his giving us trials that we might rise above them, responsibilities that we might achieve, work to harden our muscles, sorrows to try our souls? Are we not permitted temptations to test our strength, sickness that we might learn patience, death that we might be immortalized and glorified?
. . . If mortality be the perfect state, then death would be a frustration, but the gospel teaches us there is no tragedy in death, but only in sin. (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, ed. Edward L. Kimball [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1982], 38)
Gordon B. Hinckley:
The pain of death is swallowed up in the peace of eternal life. Of all the events of the chronicles of humanity, none is of such consequence as this. . . .
Whenever the cold hand of death strikes, there shines through the gloom and the darkness of that hour the triumphant figure of the Lord Jesus Christ, He, the Son of God, who by his matchless and eternal power overcame death. He is the Redeemer of the world. He gave His life for each of us. He took it up again and became the firstfruits of them that slept. He, as King of Kings, stands triumphant above all other kings. He, as the Omnipotent One, stands above all rulers. He is our comfort, our only true comfort, when the dark shroud of earthly night closes about us as the spirit departs the human form. (Teachings of Gordon B. Hinckley [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1997], 153)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
In dealing with the death of someone dear or the prospect of our own death, remember that we have not been left alone in our sorrow. Heavenly Father has given us many things to help us heal:
1. Spiritual help—Strength to overcome the hurt can come only from God (see Alma 7:11–12). Pray for understanding (see Ps. 119:169), comfort (see Ps. 142), and strength (see 1 Chron. 16:11).
2. Time—Time becomes your healing friend. Even though we are weak mortals, as we humble ourselves before the Lord we become stronger and the pain gradually lessens (see Ps. 73:26; Ether 12:27).
3. Service—When you lose a loved one, fill your life with increased service to others. When we love and serve others we are filled with the pure love of Christ, which never faileth (see Moro. 7:45–46), and are encircled in the arms of His love (see 2 Ne. 1:15). Being busy in a good cause does wonders to heal and lift the spirit.
4. Togetherness—Having family and friends around at times of loss helps immensely. In our baptismal covenants, we promise to “bear one another’s burdens, . . . mourn with those who mourn; . . . and comfort those that stand in need of comfort” (see Mosiah 18:8–9). We can take comfort and hope in this community of the gospel where people will stand by us and strengthen us with their faith.
5. Renewal—Come to an understanding of the literal resurrection of mankind. This will fill your heart and mind with hope (see Moro. 7:41). Don’t look back in sorrow on death, but forward to a future time of reuniting. The human spirit continues; death is not the final chapter of life, but a necessary experience in the flow of life.
6. Empathy—When helping others deal with death, be empathetic, sensitive, and caring, and above all be there when needed (see D&C 108:7).
7. Preparation—Prepare your loved ones for the time when you will pass away. Keep a journal in which you record the positive, uplifting things in your life. Build relationships of love filled with memories that will comfort those you leave behind.
8. Commitment—Live each day, each moment, with a commitment to doing the very best you can (see D&C 4:2). We do not know when our opportunity to make a difference in life will be interrupted.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
President Heber J. Grant reveals how his young daughter was able to receive peace from the Lord upon the death of her mother.
The Will of the Lord
I was thoroughly convinced in my own mind and in my own heart, when my first wife left me by death, that it was the will of the Lord that she should be called away. I bowed in humility at her death. The Lord saw fit upon that occasion to give to one of my little children a testimony that the death of her mother was the will of the Lord.
About one hour before my wife died, I called my children into her room and told them that their mother was dying and for them to bid her good-bye. One of the little girls, about twelve years of age, said to me: “Papa, I do not want my mamma to die. I have been with you in the hospital in San Francisco for six months; time and time again when mamma was in distress you [have] administered to her and she has been relieved of her pain and quietly gone to sleep. I want you to lay hands upon my mamma and heal her.”
I told my little girl that we all had to die sometime, and that I felt assured in my heart that her mother’s time had arrived. She and the rest of the children left the room.
I then knelt down by the bed of my wife (who by this time had lost consciousness) and I told the Lord I acknowledged His hand in life, in death, in joy, in sorrow, in prosperity, or adversity. I thanked Him for the knowledge I had that my wife belonged to me for all eternity, that the gospel of Jesus Christ had been restored, that I knew that by the power and authority of the Priesthood here on the earth that I could and would have my wife forever if I were only faithful as she had been. But I told the Lord that I lacked the strength to have my wife die and to have it affect the faith of my little children in the ordinances of the gospel of Jesus Christ; and I supplicated the Lord with all the strength that I possessed, that He would give to that little girl of mine a knowledge that it was His mind and His will that her mamma should die.
Within an hour my wife passed away, and I called the children back into the room. My little boy about five and a half or six years of age was weeping bitterly, and the little girl twelve years of age took him in her arms and said: “Do not weep, do not cry, Heber; since we went out of this room the voice of the Lord from heaven has said to me, ‘In the death of your mamma the will of the Lord shall be done.’”
Tell me, my friends, that I do not know that God hears and answers prayers! Tell me that I do not know that in the hour of adversity the Latter-day Saints are comforted and blessed and consoled as no other people are! (Heber J. Grant, Gospel Standards [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1981] 360–61)
SUMMARY
Everyone has been affected by death. When those who have lived a good, long life face death, they leave a sense of celebration of a life well lived. Our hearts seem to ache more for those who die in their youth because their lives are seemingly unfulfilled. Remember, with our finite minds we cannot see all the elements of the full picture of life. Tragic accidents and diseases seem difficult as we are haunted by the questions: Why? Why now? What could I have done? These questions bring us only negative feelings and memories of heartache, and lengthen the time for healing. Death hopefully brings one closer to God, expands our appreciation for the life of the deceased, and increases our commitment to better our own lives, as well as the lives of our families. We want to live worthy of the promises in our temple covenants, so that the love and relationships here will not end in death.
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DESIRE
“What is our greatest desire? To receive the joy of eternal life with our families! When we reach out and find souls with that same desire, we can show them precisely where to find it—in the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. That is the essence of our commission as emissaries of the Lord—to spread gospel truths and satisfy righteous desires. The Lord said: “What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them” (Mark 11:24).”
To desire is to wish for something earnestly, or to crave for a goal or object. Desire is often called the mother of change. It is the motivation from within. Its power can be seen in the lives of many successful and unsuccessful people—all depending upon their desires. The question in life is: How do you create righteous desires and keep them alive?
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
JST Matthew 6:38. Wherefore, seek not the things of this world but seek ye first to build up the kingdom of God, and to establish his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.
Our desires should be prioritized according to the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
3 Nephi 14:7. Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.
When we truly desire, we will take action. We will ask, we will seek, we will knock, and the Lord will answer us. The Lord is pleased with the righteous desires of our hearts and will grant them in His own way and in His own time.
Doctrine and Covenants 6:6–7. Now, as you have asked, behold, I say unto you, keep my commandments, and seek to bring forth and establish the cause of Zion; Seek not for riches but for wisdom, and behold, the mysteries of God shall be unfolded unto you, and then shall you be made rich. Behold, he that hath eternal life is rich.
When our desires are righteous, we will seek the cause of Zion and the wisdom of God, for they are eternal and of lasting value. Of all the gifts of our Heavenly Father that we could desire, eternal life is the greatest.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Russell M. Nelson:
Elder Petersen addressed throngs assembled at the Mount of the Beatitudes to hear his discourse on the Sermon on the Mount. After he recited “Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness,” he departed from the biblical text and pleaded this question: “Do you know what it is to be really hungry? Do you know what it is to really be thirsty? Do you desire righteousness as you would desire food under extreme conditions or drink under extreme conditions? [The Savior] expects us to literally hunger and thirst after righteousness and seek it with all our hearts!” (The Power within Us [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1988], 21)
Dallin H. Oaks:
The scriptures say that when we desire righteousness our “heart is right” with God. The Psalmist condemned the people of ancient Israel because “their heart was not right with [God]” (Psalms 78:37). When King Solomon blessed the people at the dedication of the temple, he concluded with these words: “Let your heart therefore be perfect with the Lord our God, to walk in his statutes, and to keep his commandments, as at this day” (1 Kings 8:61). (Pure in Heart [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988], 4)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are three strategies for creating and maintaining righteous desires:
1. Lay the right foundation.
● Take stock—We should regularly take an inventory of our lives. What is our heart set on now? What do we want to have happen? What do we enjoy and why? From these questions we can make a list of righteous and positive desires and how we want to work toward these goals. For example, if we want to develop charity, we will seek ways we can be kinder to others, get involved in service projects, pray to develop the attribute (see Moro. 7:45), and other such goals. We must recognize the value of each good desire and prioritize the desires so that we can focus most on those that will help us best realize our goals.
● Create a positive environment—We can adjust our environment at home and at work so that it reinforces good desires. By surrounding ourselves with objects that remind us of positive goals and with the kinds of people who are constructive, helpful, and upbeat, we are more likely to maintain our focus on these desires, and be more successful.
● Prepare our minds for success—Remember, as we think in our hearts our desires are created, and so we become (see Prov. 23:7). Understanding how desire creates outcomes makes us dwell on the good. Know that what we desire and dwell on will come to pass. Therefore, be wise about what we allow our minds to think about.
● Have an eye single to the glory of God—When we seek the glory of God, we will be filled with light and, needless to say, our desires will be righteous (see D&C 88:67).
2. Exercise positive desires on a daily basis.
● Be consistent—Think positive thoughts, pray for positive thoughts, say positive things, sing positive songs, make positive plans, and be with positive people (see Alma 37:36).
● Go to positive places—Spend time in nature, in great museums, in places of worship, in community service projects—anyplace that will reinforce good and noble desires.
● Be active—Be actively engaged in positive things, rather than predominantly passive (see D&C 58:27–28). Let us limit our idle time with television, empty music, needless computer games, and poor literature. Idleness, along with procrastination, undermines and destroys desire (see 1 Tim. 5:13; Alma 34:33; Alma 38:13).
● Help others—Teach others to have the best desires. Make an environment of positive momentum for all our loved ones and colleagues. They, in turn, will help keep us upbeat. It’s a self-reinforcing cycle. As we strengthen other peoples’ resolve to do and seek better, our own desire to do the same will be increased.
● Take charge of your inner life—Practice affirmative self-talk. Keeping the desire alive is as important as generating the desire in the first place.
● Reward yourself—Have a clear view of the positive outcomes of your good desires. Where possible and appropriate, have a commensurate reward or personal acknowledgment to help keep the desire alive. Remember that to keep the end result in mind adds forward motion to your plans.
3. Nip negative desires in the bud.
● Shift gears—When you feel the presence of negative desires, make the choice to shift your mind to your important lifelong objectives. Hum a happy tune; think of your obligations to loved ones; fill your heart with renewed commitment.
● Do a switch—Replace the allure of unwholesome outcomes with thoughts of the more desirable consequences to your positive goals, and then use that forward vision to motivate yourself to do the daily actions that will make the goals come true.
● Stoke the fires—If the good desire wanes, stop and evaluate and determine the cause, then rekindle the fire within. Recommit to your desires by setting new goals and redoubling your efforts.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
Consider in the following story how righteous desire led one man and his family to the truth.
Story of a Military Chaplain
I remember the story of one of our LDS chaplains, a man of great faith, devotion, and courage. For a year or more he had been in the central highlands of South Vietnam during the war there some 30 years ago. He had been where the fighting was bitter and the losses as tragic as in any area of Vietnam. On two occasions he was wounded. He saw a tragically large percentage of his brigade become casualties, many of them killed in action. The men of his unit loved and respected him. His superior officers honored him.
He was not always a member of this Church. As a boy in the southern U.S. he grew up in a religious home where the Bible was read and where the family attended the little church of the community. He desired the gift of the Holy Ghost of which he had read in the scriptures but was told that it was not available. The desire never left him. He grew to manhood. He served in the U.S. Army. He searched but never found the thing he most wanted. Between military enlistments, he became a prison guard. While sitting in the gun tower of a California prison, he meditated on his own deficiencies and prayed to the Lord that he might receive the Holy Ghost and satisfy the hunger which he felt in his soul. That hunger had not been fully satisfied with sermons to which he had listened.
One day two young men knocked at his door. His wife invited them to return when her husband would be at home. These two young men taught that family by the Holy Spirit. In two and a half weeks they were baptized. I have heard this man testify to the effect that as he was taught by the power of the Holy Spirit, he was edified and rejoiced with those who taught him. Out of that marvelous beginning, with the gift of the Holy Ghost, came a shedding forth of light and truth that gave peace to the dying, comfort to the bereaved, blessings to the wounded, courage to the timid, and faith to those who had scoffed. Sweet are the fruits of teaching done under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. They feed the spirit and nourish the soul. (Gordon B. Hinckley, “Feed the Spirit, Nourish the Soul,” Ensign, October 1998, 2)
SUMMARY
If all would have the desire to fulfill their important eternal roles within the great plan of happiness, life would be magnificent. The problem is that worldly pressure and goals get our attention, hence our desires are channeled toward them. Thoughts dwelt upon germinate desires, which start us on the path to achieving our goals. The question should echo in our soul: What do we desire?—for eventually our thoughts and desires will take us there. But we must also consider, will our desired take us to happiness? As we answer that question, let us remember the counsel of the Lord to Hyrum Smith, given through his brother, the Prophet Joseph: “Verily, verily, I say unto you, I will impart unto you of my Spirit, which shall enlighten your mind, which shall fill your soul with joy; And then shall ye know, or by this shall you know, all things whatsoever you desire of me, which are pertaining unto things of righteousness, in faith believing in me that you shall receive” (D&C 11:13–14).
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DISCIPLESHIP
“The Savior taught: “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another” (John 13:35). What greater joy can there be than sharing the truths of the gospel with those seeking deliverance and salvation? What specific steps can we take to become more faithful and righteous disciples of the Lord?”
As baptized members and followers of the Lord Jesus Christ, we are His disciples. We have a belief and testimony of the doctrines and teachings of the gospel of Jesus Christ and of the Church and kingdom of God here upon the earth. We seek to be obedient to the commandments, to stand as witnesses at all times and in all places (see Mosiah 18:8–9), and to share the gospel with all mankind (see Morm. 9:22). We seek to become like Him (see 3 Ne. 27:27). We truly become His disciples as we love and serve our fellowman (see John 13:34–35) and seek always to do the will of God.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
John 13:34–35. A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
Love, the great commandment, is truly a symbol of one’s discipleship of the Lord Jesus Christ. Remember that love is the most righteous motive for all that is good, and it is expressed through service.
Doctrine and Covenants 41:5. He that receiveth my law and doeth it, the same is my disciple; and he that saith he receiveth it and doeth it not, the same is not my disciple, and shall be cast out from among you.
Discipleship requires action. We must be doers of the word and not hearers only (see James 1:22).
Doctrine and Covenants 103:28. And whoso is not willing to lay down his life for my sake is not my disciple.
True discipleship requires total and complete sacrifice of all things. While we may never be called upon to die for the gospel, as Christ’s disciples, we are called upon to live for it.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Bruce R. McConkie:
Scriptural tests establishing true discipleship include: 1. Believing the true doctrines of Christ (Ether 4:10–12); 2. Obeying the principles of the gospel (John 8:31); 3. Having “love one to another” (John 13:35); 4. Accepting the message and aiding the work of the missionaries (D&C 84:87–91); and 5. Bringing forth works of righteousness (John 15:4–8.) (Mormon Doctrine, 2nd ed. [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1966], 198)
Neal A. Maxwell:
Heavenly power can be accessed only by those who are Christlike; it is a power whose continued availability is maintained by meekness along with the other virtues. Nor can we have the loving empathy or understanding mercy necessary for true discipleship without meekness. (Meek and Lowly [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1987], 85)
Discipleship is not simply surviving and enduring; discipleship is a pressing forward, a creative Christianity. Discipleship does not wait to be acted upon, but instead acts upon men and circumstances to make things better. . . . True discipleship is for volunteers only. Only volunteers will trust the Guide sufficiently to follow Him in the dangerous ascent which only He can lead. (The Neal A. Maxwell Quote Book, ed. Cory H. Maxwell [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1997], 91)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are seven ideas to help us be true disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ:
1. Express our love—Let us express love in a pure and meaningful way to all those with whom we come in contact.
● Do a good deed (see Mosiah 5:15).
● Show empathy and concern through service (see Mosiah 18:8–9).
● Share the gospel as directed by the Spirit (see 3 Nephi 5:13).
● Listen to others—someone always needs a listening ear (see 1 Pet. 3:1–8).
2. Set a good example.
Our good works not only help others, but glorify God (see 3 Ne. 12:16).
● Remember that someone is always watching (see 3 Ne. 15:12; 27:21).
● What we are and do speak more powerfully than our words (Alma 39:11).
3. Share the gospel.
● Pray for those who do not know God (see Alma 6:6).
● Set a date to have someone taught the gospel (see D&C 88:81; 123:12).
● Go on splits with the full-time missionaries.
● Open your mouth. Start a friendly conversation; place a copy of the Book of Mormon; hand out a pass-a-long card or introduce someone to the Church with a video, TV program, or other appropriate activity in their area (see D&C 33:8–11).
● Contribute to the missionary fund.
4. As in all things, persevere in living the gospel.
● Search the scriptures (2 Ne. 32:3; D&C 84:43–45).
● Fast and pray to do the will of the Father (see D&C 10:5; 19:38; 32:4; 61:39; 88:126; 90:21).
● Keep the commandments (see John 14:15; D&C 93:1).
5. Magnify our callings.
● Learn your duty (see D&C 107:99–100)
● Be accountable for your responsibilities (see Jacob 1:19; 2:2).
6. Follow the Spirit.
● Yield to the enticings of the Spirit (see Mosiah 3:19).
● Yield your heart to God (see Hel. 3:35).
7. Endure to the end.
● Persevere (see Eph. 6:18).
● Never give up (see 2 Ne. 31:20).
● Dedicate and devote everything we can to the Lord (see Hel. 10:4–5; D&C 4:2).
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
Richard J. Allen tells us how Elder Neal A Maxwell’s humble acceptance of his failing health due to leukemia stands as an example of faithful discipleship.
The Higher Perspective
In the first of the worldwide priesthood training sessions conducted by satellite on January 11, 2003, Elder Neal A. Maxwell taught a precious lesson in discipleship when recounting his challenges with leukemia. As he spoke on the subject of revelation and how the “mind and heart, intellect and feeling” are to be in tune with the Spirit, he shared with the audience that he had pleaded one day with the Lord concerning matters of health and continued service in the kingdom. He was concerned that due to his failing health he could not serve the Savior of His people as an effective disciple. As Elder Maxwell recounted it, the answer came to him in a thirteen-word statement: “I have given you leukemia that you might teach my people with authenticity.” What a transcendent expression concerning the nature of true discipleship and how each of us—despite the adversities of life placed in our pathway of progress—can rise to all occasions for service in the spirit of humility and acceptance, always viewing things from a higher, more spiritual perspective.
—Richard J. Allen
SUMMARY
Devoted followers of the Lord Jesus Christ are true disciples. The sacrifice is great; the reward is eternal life. We live His doctrine and precepts. We preach and teach His word and His gospel. We all can be His true disciples. There is no comparison by title, position, or station; there is no competition with others. There is only one question: Do we do the will of God?
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DUTY
“When we conduct our lives in faithful accord with our “duty to God” (Alma 7:22), then we will serve Him, our fellow Saints, our families, and our communities, and do so with devotion and honor. Sharing the gospel with others is a sacred duty for all the honorable and faithful Saints of God. Through the blessings of the Abrahamic covenant (see Abraham 2:8–11), we can reach out to others to bring gospel peace and power into their lives. What specific strategies can we all follow to enable us more fully to perform this duty more effectively, and with greater results in helping those who seek the truth to change their lives according to the Savior’s plan?”
When one assumes or agrees to assume a responsibility, it becomes one’s duty to follow through. Often duties are simply inherent within the office you occupy or the role you play. There are often moral and legal issues in doing one’s duty. In the Scout oath, the words “On my honor I will do my best to do my duty to God and my country” cast a guiding light over the full range of our human endeavor. These words should echo in our hearts and remind us of our duties at home, at school, in the workplace, in the Church, and throughout all of society. We, as a Christian people, have many rights and many duties to uphold. The family and the workplace would be so much better if all people would simply do their duty. Honoring one’s duty is an enduring principle upon which society as a whole—and family life in particular—must be based.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US
Ecclesiastes 12:13. Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
When we reverence our Heavenly Father and keep His commandments, we are doing our duty in all things. You cannot separate doing your duty at work or at home from living the gospel of Jesus Christ. Performing your duty with honor in any venue is honoring your integrity. It is using your time wisely; it is gaining more knowledge; it is blessing others.
Moroni 9:6. And now, my beloved son, notwithstanding their hardness, let us labor diligently; for if we should cease to labor, we should be brought under condemnation; for we have a labor to perform whilst in this tabernacle of clay, that we may conquer the enemy of all righteousness, and rest our souls in the kingdom of God.
Things were not going well at the time for Mormon and Moroni in regard to helping the Nephites repent and keep the commandments. In this verse we learn a transcending truth: regardless of the situation we find ourselves in, we all have duties relating to our different roles. We are duty bound to do our best at all times and in all things lest we be brought under condemnation. We owe it to God, our fellowmen, and ourselves to do our best.
MODERN PROPHETS SPEAK
Ezra Taft Benson:
We have many responsibilities, and a person cannot expect the full blessings of the kind Providence if he neglects any major duty. A man has duties to his church, to his home, to his country, and to his profession or job. . . .
Our great benefactor, Brigham Young, understood the basic principle that you cannot help a man permanently by doing for him what he could do and should do for himself. Shrink not from duty as it is made known. Accept responsibility. Be grateful for work. Hesitate not to do your full share of it. (The Teachings of Ezra Taft Benson [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1988], 292, 293)
Joseph F. Smith:
If I do my duty, according to my understanding of the requirements that the Lord has made of me, then I ought to have a conscience void of offense; I ought to have satisfaction in my soul, in the consciousness that I have simply done my duty as I understand it, and I will risk the consequences. With me it is a matter between me and the Lord; so it is with every one of us. (Gospel Doctrine: Selections from the Sermons and Writings of Joseph F. Smith, comp. John A. Widtsoe [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1939], 249)
IDEAS FOR DAILY LIVING
Here are three strategies to help us do our duties in all aspects of life:
1. Start with success in mind.
● Recognition—Accept the principle of duty as a sacred part of your life. Recognize the various duties within your life and commit to making a plan to do them.
● Alignment—Commit only to those tasks that align with your principles and values.
● Team work—Involve your family and loved ones in your commitments so that they, too, can be part of the decision and the performance. A key element in following through is to keep in mind how your performance will affect the lives of others.
● Capacity—Do not commit beyond your capacity or resources.
● Balance—What are our greatest duties? To God, to family, to self, to the community, to the nation. We cannot perform well our duty to family or country without performing well our duty to God. Build duty into all aspects of your life: family, professional, personal, spiritual. Keep balance in your commitments.
● Honor—Make your word your fortress. When you give your word, keep it. Honor is the partner of duty. When you commit, honestly do your best to fulfill the commitment.
2. Have a plan for honoring your duties.
● Total commitment—When you give your word, you also commit your resources. Enlist all available resources to do your duty—including your time, talents, and material goods.
● Training—When you accept a responsibility, insist on and obtain proper training and instruction, but remember it is your responsibility to learn your duty.
● Management—Make a timeline for fulfilling your duty. Divide things into daily performance tasks. Keep to your schedule or routine so you will not be overwhelmed.
● Measurement—Build measurement into assignments. Create agreement and understanding as to how your performance will be evaluated. When possible, make target dates for completion, with intermediate checkpoints to stay on track.
● Motivation—Come to terms with motivation. Duty is motivated by a variety of influences, including love, the hope for reward, or fear. Love is the highest form of motivation. Rewards should be appropriate and in keeping with the natural consequences of the behavior. Fear is often induced by the leader, and it is sometimes also generated by the individual out of anxiety for failure. Threats of punishment have only short-term effect and are not nearly as powerful as the motive of love. We should avoid the motive of fear at all costs. Always remember that self-motivation in regard to one’s duty is best.
3. Do your duty to teach duty to others.
● Delegation—In giving assignments to others, include quality criteria and a performance schedule. Always arrange for follow-up. Build accountability into the duty process.
● Kindness—Teach others the importance of duty through persuasion and kindness. Give regular assignments to children and younger workers. Carefully guide them to success. As you inspire others to do their duties, it is important to remember that persuasion with love is essential.
ILLUSTRATIONS FOR OUR TIME
President Thomas S. Monson relates a story of how a pair of home teachers faithfully fulfilled their duty, thus greatly blessing the life of a German brother.
Duty Calls
Should we feel [any] assignment too arduous or time-consuming, let me share with you the experience of a faithful home teacher and his companion in what was then East Germany.
Brother Johann Denndorfer had been converted to the Church in Germany, and following World War II, he found himself virtually a prisoner in his own land—the land of Hungary in the city of Debrecen. How he wanted to visit the temple! How he desired to receive his spiritual blessings! Request after request to journey to the temple in Switzerland had been denied, and he almost despaired. Then his home teacher visited. Brother Walter Krause went from the northeastern portion of Germany all the way to Hungary. He had said to his home teaching companion, “Would you like to go home teaching with me this week?”
His companion said, “When will we leave?”
“Tomorrow,” replied Brother Krause.
“When will we come back?” asked the companion.
“Oh, in about a week—if we get back then!”
And away they went to visit Brother Denndorfer. He had not had home teachers since before the war. Now, when he saw the servants of the Lord, he was overwhelmed. He did not shake hands with them; rather, he went to his bedroom and took from a secret hiding place his tithing that he had saved from the day he became a member of the Church and returned to Hungary. He presented the tithing to his home teachers and said: “Now I am current with the Lord. Now I feel worthy to shake the hands of servants of the Lord!”
Brother Krause asked him about his desire to attend the temple in Switzerland. Brother Denndorfer said: “It’s no use. I have tried and tried. The government has even confiscated my Church books, my greatest treasure.”
Brother Krause, a patriarch, provided Brother Denndorfer with a patriarchal blessing. At the conclusion of the blessing, he said to Brother Denndorfer, “Approach the government again about going to Switzerland.” And Brother Denndorfer submitted the request once again to the authorities. This time approval came, and with joy Brother Denndorfer went to the Swiss Temple and stayed a month. He received his own endowment, his deceased wife was sealed to him, and he was able to accomplish the work for hundreds of his ancestors. He returned to his home renewed in body and in spirit. (Thomas S. Monson, “Duty Calls,” Ensign, May 1996, 43)
SUMMARY
As we come to realize the importance of doing our duty in our lives, we begin to realize the great number of associated benefits: growth, order, self-respect, self-confidence, service, greater happiness. If duty is simply modified behavior without principle and without focus, we can never find the joy in our work. All duties, in their most unlimited sense of being honorable undertakings and worthy acts of performance, ultimately bless lives—especially the life of the one doing the duty.